Yes, I know right now we are not in close relationship, that’s obvious. But there are some other things that is making me think there is something serious. Anyways, thanks for your help.

As by writing and posting for first luv, showing jealousy of I flirt with other Guys on my fb list.

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I tried contacting him once through email- did not respond, and one more time through another account just normal greetings… but dint not respond and blocked also, feels like he is showing anger. I know I am overthinking in every aspect. But this is really confusing why he has not married her for all these months, but haven’t broken the engagement also and is avoiding talking to me also. How come also girl’s side don’t talk about marriage. Kindly help.

Thanks Anita,

You are so helpful and it counseled me better than a doctor. Yes I will definitely move on and this point is good that look for family matter in future relationships.

Thanks a lot!

Hi Anita,

Thanks. I talked to him last night over the email. He has given up on the situation. Moreover, he said that he has left me due to my attitude and immature behaviour but is unable to explain exactly what. I think I just wasted my time with him. It’s bad due to your own weakness I start picking out faults in other person. I think there is no solution to this situation and I should move on.

Thanks.

Hi everyone,

This is not a reply to the above but I myself is in a similar situation. Wow this site and responses above are wonderful. I am sure that I will get an answer to my situation also.

Actually it’s like I and my boyfriend met through an arranged situation. My mom saw his profile on shadi.com . The things progressed and went to meeting both families. Right from then we were told that all decisions in his family are taken by his maternal aunt. She is unmarried and she took care if his mother in their childhood as their parents died early. His aunt asked for dowry to which I questioned. His family is a conservative one and his aunt said a few mean things to me over the phone. After all this this alliance for cancelled . After 3,4 months Diwali festival came and just thought of wishing him and being just friends with him. It was like he was waiting for my message. We just started talking normally as friends. Don’t know when we fell on love. We met once as he stays far. After 3,4months he talked to his family about me. But there was a huge drama at his house. His mother likes me. She tried to convince everyone in the family including his aunt but no use. After that his mother took promise from him that he will never talk to me. I was persplexed and got very down to take it. however we talked twice thrice after that but he said his aunt will not agree to it and he can’t see his mother crying. After that one year passed and then he got engaged to another girl forcefully as can be seen from pics and other things. We have no communication between us. One of my friend enquired and found out that girl’s family is very rich and his aunt will take a huge dowry from them. Also that girl is very dominating, does not talk to him, and insults him in front of everyone in social media. It is clear from the social media that he tried talking to get twice, thrice but she behaved very badly with her. They also have no communication between them. I have no idea why she is even getting married to him.

he is neither talking to her not to me. Neither this engagement is broken not getting lead to marriage. His health has become very down.

I have spoken to my mother also. She is in favour of marriage but says she can’t tell them to break marriage as it is against values. I want to help him out of this situation and also want to marry him. Please suggest any steps I can take.

Thanks..