Hi everyone,

I can totally relate to what Kylee is going through, although for me this is my first relationship. So I tend to associate it with first/new relationship anxiety. We were quite casual for a while (a year or so) and decided to become exclusive a few months ago. I’m happy for the most part and it’s obvious we want to be with each other, care for each other, but we both have mentioned not worrying about marriage anytime soon (both in our mid-twenties) so not worrying too much about the future. I try my best to live in the moment and enjoy the relationship for what it is but find myself becoming insecure, anxious and feeling vulnerable often. Similarly to Kylee, I’m a very emotionally intense person and quite verbal about it, he on the other hand, isn’t the best communicator especially when it comes to emotions (probably because he’s been hurt in the past). I have a tendency to overthink things and feel like I’m becoming a burden if I talk about my problems all the time with him and want too much attention. I ask myself too, if I’m expecting too much. I’m glad I found this post and the responses as they’ve been helpful and make me realize I am not alone in how I feel. I’m working on myself, meditating and building up my self-esteem/confidence because I know it’s something only I have the power to “fix” and I don’t want to ruin something that has the potential to be great because of my own insecurities, anxieties and past.

Thanks!