Hi

I have registered with tinybuddha just to write a piece of advice. I have been in your situation before, where that nagging voice keeps creeping up in your psyche telling you this one is not for you, but you keep scanning the environment and logically are unable to comprehend why you’d want to leave such a wonderful person. This thought will not leave you, ever and unless you leave now, you will have spent the next five years battling your own inner thoughts.

You are doing both yourselves a disservice by staying because you’re scared of hurting him That is the nature of life, we hurt people but you deserve to be in a relationship where it simply feels right. Do you want to spend the next 5 or 9 years doubting and draining your energy away? There have been scientific studies that clearly show that relationships between non drinkers and drinkers are not successful in the long run. Listen to that little voice in your head that keeps telling you to pay attention to your body. Find a relationship that is right for you – after all you have only just started exploring! There is no guarantees that turning left or right is the better option, but all you can do is do your best. What is truly yours will not be withheld from you. Take a leap of faith. You know you want to.