Dear Javaria,

I understand where you’re coming from when you say you don’t want to be a hypocrite and then turn away from him after agreeing that it was bad of his friends to not check up on him.

However, if he is actually a true friend he should be able to understand the fact that you have boundaries with friendships and need personal space sometimes which isn’t a bad thing.

Everyone is different and deals with things differently some people like over sharing like your new friend, but some people don’t like too like you do.

That doesn’t make you selfish or a bad friend he needs to respect you because not everyone is the same and everyone has boundaries. He needs to understand that him talking and contacting you too much is overwhelming for you because you are different in your own way and prefer to talk with a friend once in awhile not daily.

My advice is being this upto him and straight up say it don’t hesitate i get he might be going through a lot but that isn’t your fault and if you keep things the way they are right now. It will most likely impact your mental health but in a negative away which isn’t good for you at all.

And there’s nothing wrong with telling a friend you need space and need to take a break sometimes because we are all human after all not robots.

If he takes what you’re saying negatively that’s on him but if he doesn’t that’s good but don’t let this situation linger on for too much longer.