Dear Anita,

I am not saying I’m the victim of the situation. I don’t know why you have to put a title on what I’m feeling? I don’t need you to reply to my post and tell me what’s going on with my life because I obviously know. I’m aware of what my previous post as well and have not once changed the story. Yes, bravo, you know that I intiated the separation, (not because I wasn’t in love) just because I did doesn’t mean I should feel any less than I should and just because I chose to sleep with my husband doesn’t mean I still shouldn’t feel the way I do. I don’t regret keeping my child and I don’t blame the hormones for everything it’s just simply me venting out about how the whole situation I’m in sucks. Simply me opening up here because this site is for that purpose.

Everytime I post something, I always get such bad vibe from you. Your post are harsh but the truth but a bit more on the judge mental side than comforting. My very last post, you we’re advising me to get an abortion and now all of a sudden you care about my child’s well being? Seems a little fake to me.

I know my mistakes, I’m not a victim or suspect in the situation. I’m just simply a human being who’s experience painful events in her life either I’m the victim or suspect or outsider or who ever. But you are in no position to say and point fingers that I’m putting myself as a victim and basically telling me that’s the cause of my pain.

But thank you for your replies, there are some points that you did make a lot of sense and was helpful. I just didn’t like the part where you basically told me to stop being the victim like as if I deserve feeling this way. Atleast that’s how I see it.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 10 months ago by Shun.

Only if it was that easy. The times he texted me. He stated “I want to be here for you make it right and be a friend” I told him I can’t be friends but I could definitely co parent. I had gave him the option to either choose team us our family or just team you because I can’t be friends and if he’s intention are not the same as mine to leave me alone. He said pretty much gave me the space I wanted so that answered my question. The thing with my husband he’s a stoic. Whatever he feels he keep to himself. He did apologize to me and told me things like I wish I would’ve fought harder for you or like how he misses me but I just don’t know what’s stopping him. I pretty much let him know I’m willing to work things out and still nothing. Nobody know how he feels and what he’s thinking but himself. What kind of person would say he wishes he would’ve fought for me but not do anything about it. Or how he’s so unhappy and he knows it’s because karma hitting him for what he did to me.