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– did you find out that she didn’t feel the same way before or after you hid your feelings for her?
– did she ask you to assure her that you were not in love with her?
Dear anita,
We had talks about our expectations before it all happened. She made it clear several times that she’s just having fun and doesn’t have any expectations. She asked me if I feel the same way and I lied because I didn’t want to lose her. She thought it’d be unhealthy for us to hook up if one of us had feelings since she was not looking for something serious.
I know partly I’m guilty because I was not honest about my feelings. And I said many mean things when I got upset. And I’m not looking for a fix for this situation, I’ve kind of admitted that nothing will be the same again between us. By that I don’t mean only hookups. I mean our friendship. We were good friends before it all happened.
I’m just tired of feeling incompetent. I’m tired of doubting myself as a woman. I’m tired of having so many complicated emotions at once.
Sloppy_dreamsParticipantDear anita,
Thank you for your understanding. I know that this need is normal when it is in moderation. But in this case, unfortunately I can’t cope with this problem. Anyway, it is good to know that nobody criticizes me, but understands and appreciates me. This is very essential for me. Thank you.
Dear Cara,
You can’t imagine that how your comment helps me. I read every single word very attentively. It’s very valuable to know that someone else experienced this problem too. Yes, in my case it isn’t about social media, it’s about real interaction, but anyway it helps me to calm down. Yesterday when I wrote my problem here I was really nervous. I needed to share my problem with someone else, but you know after reading your replies I feel much more good than yesterday. I smiled when I was reading your comment at first, because another point is that, I’ve graduated from my psychology degree (BA) too. You know, when psychology students suffer from something it’s much more difficult to cope with it, because you know what’s going on, you know reasons, but you can’t help yourself properly. That’s the reason why I approached to psycologist. With the help of her and your I believe that I will able to cope with this problem.
I like your advice and I promise you (and actually myself) that I will try to do this. I believe that it will help me. I don’t want to live all my life with this disgusting feeling.
I’m sorry for your mother. I hope that now you’re much more happier and your life more satisfying than in the past.
Thank you for your help and understanding. I’ll absolutely visit your website and give you feedback!Dear Mark,
Thank you for your comment and willingness to help. I read your comment carefully. This thought really impressed me: I realized that I cannot ever know for sure what people think about me, but I can work on knowing myself. It’s definitely what I need. I need to know and love myself as my therapist said me. She said that the main problem is that, I appreciate and love myself because of other people, not myself. The hardest part is to deal with this problem. But know I’m sure that I will able to do this. Your thoughts awake me in some way and now I believe myself much more. However, I think that it’s also the sign of my need for people’s understanding, praise and support. It’s the part of my problem. But anyway, it’s the basic need for us, the need for support and care.
You wrote that Is there something about yourself or your life that you wish you could change? Definitely yes. It’s another part of my problem. I’m not satisfied with my life and education. I want to change my life, and my course is part of this change. That’s why it makes me stressed, anxious and nervous.
I’ll try to implement your advice. I believe that it will help me in some way.
Thank you.- This reply was modified 7 years, 5 months ago by Sloppy_dreams.
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