Hi Strawberry,

I’m going through a similar type of breakup but my ex hasn’t met anyone new yet. It’s absolutely gut wrenching and painful. I totally understand how you must be feeling. It has been 6 weeks for me and we still talk every day but haven’t seen each other face to face yet; his choice. I’m contemplating going no contact because I think I’m setting myself up for more pain by continuing to talk to him. I’m fairly certain that once he meets someone new, he will stop communicating with me and that will be an even more painful set back. He made his choice and I have to accept it.

I’m very proud of you for maintaining no contact because I know how hard it must have been to let go of your hopes of being together. The only thing that has helped me is going to Al Anon meetings almost daily. I’m learning about emotionally detaching from someone who can’t be available to me. One thing I have learned is that there is no way to avoid the grieving process and there’s no time limit. Allow yourself to grieve the loss and do what ever you need to, take as much time as you need to and don’t beat yourself up. I think it’s normal for one’s self worth to plummet after being rejected. Take good care of yourself right now and seek out the love and support of your friends and family. No matter what happens, you will be okay. For now, just allow yourself to move through the pain and know you aren’t alone. Internet forums are full of people who have had their heart’s broken. It’s part of life.

Big hug to you!