Kangarootje your name sounds Dutch to me. If you want to talk I am here. I think you both need some time. And try to understand that he is suffering from Manic depression and speciousness is part of illness. Curiosity about others past, also part of it. Go behind your back and look for your history also part of it. What I can tell you, you both need some time for your selves. Heal from the past wounds. you don’t need to tell everything but being honest is a good thing. At some point my dear if some one cannot let your past to be your past I don’t see any healthy relationship there.

Dear Sarah, I truly understand what you are going through. Take a deep breath. Let your self heal first. Try to enjoy your self think about your self. Love your self. And be your self don’t think about relationships or new men yet. Try to be your self who you were before that relationship. Completely put him out of your head. I know it is easy to say but what I did took long walks. Got in to a train and visited cities when to museums, musicals that gave me the strength to be my self who I was be fore my night mare marriage. I think that steps would help you too.

it is tough also it is hard but that makes you a stronger person. believe me.

Now it is hard girl honestly. If I were you I will take the flight back to Europe and start from fresh don’t you think that would work for you may be? Working in a company what belongs to your ex partners sister is hard and that will remind you all the memories again and again. you can make two choices either you leave everything behind in Australia and move to EU and start from fresh or while you working with ex sis law find another job and move on.

Dear Maria,, From your information I have observed few things. you are always comparing your past to the present. No I don’t think you should do that. And also what is the interested thing in his past life cannot you let past go as a past. And focus on your relationship what you have right now. I think you are thinking too much about everything. As you said on your own if he cares for you deal with finances with you if he is not cheating on you if he is truthful about what he do I think you should not complain about sex or try to dig his past. I can say that you are over thinking about everything.
First of all take a deep breath and leave past behind….. don’t think about again and again or don’t compare that disturb the relationship.
Second ….. be happy that you have some one who cares and who still there with you.
third… do something turn on his sexual interest. Like wear some sexy dress use some romantic perfume,, make a day only for two of you if there any possibility. Like give your kids to a friend or grand parents and go a for a out and see if that works.

send an email with exactly what you want to say may be that helps 🙂

Dear Jamie, Honest to say I feel the pain what you have right now. Yes ex husbands boy friends are born to hurt some one. But if he is your ex let him to be your ex let him go from your head yes I know it is much easy to say so but focus on your life instead of thinking who already left you. And take a lesson from what you have went through. And why you want to forgive your self ? It seems you blame your self for what happened also look like you have regrets , are you? If you have been with some one divorced already there is always a risk that due to their lings they will turn back to their ex es. But why you keep thinking why he did that way and why he treated you that way giving an stress to your self does not help. Think as a good thing happened to you. Some one who does not care about you left you,, as the way he left you he will leave another one that is how it is. But that is not what we wanted right? I have been married for 12 years. And my husband cheated me enough. I knew it but I let him run as far as he wanted because I knew he will end up in a big crap on his own. Instead of thinking what he do and why he do I use that time to enjoy my self. Go to a film with friends or with my little daughter walk through the city and breath the fresh air. It was pain full honestly it was not easy. My husband was aggressive, no respect , abusive words, when some one guilty they blow up it on the one who sit next to them. That is what I have seen. And most pains comes from the way we accept the issues. I never thought he do such things because of me I don’t make him happy I never took anything for my self. Try meditation that is very good for your phase. Sit down try not to think anything just focus on your breathing. I am sure you will stand up with positive energy. Big hug