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February 1, 2016 at 10:37 am in reply to: Anxiety/Overthinking ruining my relationship.. On verge of break-up #94585DinaParticipant
Anita — You are a lovely person. Your ability to reflect on yourself inspires and amazes me. I will continue to post, and I hope you will too!
DinaParticipantHey E —
I just had one comment I wanted to add here: anyone who thinks you are not worth being in a relationship because you have shared something personal with them, is not worth dating. The right people will care for you just the way you are, and will be willing to work with you through your struggles 🙂
I told my current boyfriend on day one about my anxiety disorder, my frequent panic attacks, and the (very had to talk about) fact that I take medication to calm the panic attacks. Not only did he tell me he still wanted to be with me, but he has supported me, told me we can work through it together, convinced me not to be ashamed, and has never once made me feel badly about it.
The personal example there is just to show you that there are people out there that will love you for you 🙂
February 1, 2016 at 10:06 am in reply to: Anxiety/Overthinking ruining my relationship.. On verge of break-up #94579DinaParticipantHi Anita,
I greatly appreciate your apology, and forgive you completely. I knew your intent was not to hurt me, though as a flawed human being, I can definitely be sensitive at times, so reading your post and apology definitely made me feel much better.
I think the comment on my post was difficult for me in many ways, but one of the biggest was the it forced me to reflect inwardly. Every time I give and advise and try to help, I think there is a part of me with a personal motivation as well. A part of me that wants confirmation in my actions, ways of thinking, and choices. I want to be reaffirmed through others that I am a good person in the way I think the actions I choose to take. So a disagreement in my opinions at times makes me wonder if I am as good as I think I am, or if I am also flawed and need to change some of the ways I choose to lead my life.
While it may be hard to hear, in the end, this is always a good thing. So, while I accept your apology, in the end, I also thank you for challenging me.
Dina
January 30, 2016 at 4:14 pm in reply to: Anxiety/Overthinking ruining my relationship.. On verge of break-up #94356DinaParticipantHm. I somehow feel attacked in this post which is odd given that I was simply trying to help. Anita, I honor your perspective as I hope you would honor mine without judgement. Adam — I hope you find a partner who makes you happy. That is all from me
DinaParticipantHad you and the first girl discussed exclusivity? If not, I dont see why you feel guilty?
DinaParticipantAww sweet. Thank you J 🙂
Also Anita — I have no idea if there is a way I can say this to you outside of forums, but I wanted you to know that I think what you do is incredible. You have helped so many people here. You are a kind soul.
DinaParticipantSounds like youre doing really well 🙂 congrats on taking the leap and getting started!
i think different people are motivated in different ways. my boyfriend, for example, is an artist. He is motivated by aquariums. Every time we go to an aquarium he comes home inspired and wants to draw and create for hours. We can have the television, music, just about anything on, and he continues to draw. Or sometimes we will simply sit at a cafe and he draws the people around him.
My sister is a graphic designer motivated by all kinds of things. Her latest form of art has been baking and decorating these intricate, beautiful cakes.
I find myself most motivated when in the company of other motivated working creative types, so I tend to like to go to public spaces (like cafes) and work from there. Something always inevitably inspires me this way. For me, getting out of the house is what helps.
Just a couple of suggestions 🙂 All in all, I think the best way to keep motivated is to keep inspired. Hold on to the reason youre doing this, and continue to re-inspire yourself 🙂
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DinaParticipantI want to be remembered in some small way by everyone I meet. I know…a very unrealistic idea, but one that I’ve always held dear. I make a point of being there for as many people as I can, family, friends, even strangers. I want to make an impact, however small, in the lives of others. I want to be the kind stranger that smiled at someone having a bad day and made it just a bit more bearable. I want to be the friend that offered to help clean up the accidental mess someone else made. I want to be that person who stands up to bullies. It’s something I live by I suppose. Both compassion, and the neverending desire to be remembered in a positive way by the people I stumble across in life 🙂
DinaParticipantHi J 🙂 I have some thoughts on this, but would first like a bit more clarity on the types of projects you are doing. This will help me to understand different types of motivation that could work for you
DinaParticipantOkay so I’ll admit I havent thoroughly read everything here, but if you’re considering english, know you can DEFINITELY make a living from it 🙂 I studied English Lit and am doing pretty well for myself as a project coordinator at my dream company.
English skills come in handy in many places. If you’re passionate about it, give it a shot 🙂
DinaParticipantWow yeah everyone this definitely helps 🙂 Thank you so much for taking the time to make these suggestions! Really appreciate it
DinaParticipantYESS thank you a million 🙂
DinaParticipantAnytime! Glad we could help 🙂
DinaParticipantHi Elle,
It’s a shame that you feel any negativity towards this site. In my brief experience, I have only felt love and warmth. of course some things have been difficult to hear, but at the end of the day, it seems everyone is here in order to provide support. They may bring to attention some of the harder things, but I’m pretty positive it’s all with good intent.
Anyways, I dont know anything about your story, your experiences, and your life, but I do wish you a wonderfully bright future, and lots of love to come 🙂
DinaParticipantI meant to say “something you had no control over” in that first paragraph. for whatever reason i am unable to edit! just wanted to clarify 🙂
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