Hi Shelli,

I’m sorry that he handled it the way he did. He took the easy and chicken way out by not confronting you and telling you how he felt. I know how it feels to hurt every day. I know how it feels to be totally fine and in control one second and then to feel as if it’s just happened all over again the very next. I am trying so hard to understand what happened myself and to feel as tho I am ok and I am not. I’ve decided to go talk to a therapist, partly because I just cant seem to get over it and partly because I think getting objective responses to my posts on sites like this is helpful. The other reason is that part of my breakup was because I have some unresolved issues that I was subconsciously taking out on him and I never want to do that again to anyone I love. I just wish he’d told me before he left me.The thing is that on these sites if you post the full story no one will read them and your left still hurting and feeling alone. I was the same way as you it sounds. I’m the type who will fight for someone i love and stick through almost anything to be with them. But at the end of the day I hope I can believe myself when I say that any man who would walk away from a woman who would give her heart and soul to him or for him is an utter fool and we deserve better. I don’t feel like i’ll find anyone better necessarily now or ever but there must be someone out there who isn’t going to break my heart into glass dust. Thank you and Helpful Angel for your answers because just knowing that someone else out there has heard and understands the sheer and utter sadness that is left behind after a breakup makes it feel so much less lonely. <3