Hello all,
This situation is similar to mine.Getting stuck in the rut going through life on auto pilot becoming more and more disconnected and dissatisfied with the relationship. She had shut down and moved on (emotional affair (so she said in marriage counseling) communication was nill and I was losing had lost my wife. It started with a 6 month trial separation. I can see how it works if the other person isn’t in an affair! As you never know what you have until it’s gone. She had left me with the kids. at the time they were 8 and 3.I shut my business down and gave them my full attention. I took on a fast that lasted 3 weeks and everything became very clear and vivid. And I faced the fact she wasn’t ever coming back. With a new sense of clarity I was able to go back in time (and I started to see the flags) lessons learned. As a man I think if it’s not broke why fix it? But maintenance is always better then a catastrophe! It’s allowing coming back to the reason your married…love and connecting On many levels! And to start learn and try new things…New language, yoga, tantric retreat, dancing, fishing, camping anything to get out of the norm and brings laughter! I’m sure you’ve had lots of suggestions. It might be hard now but divorce is even harder! it may take him falling down before he can stand up.
I wish you all the best