Hi Jasmine,
What a kind soul you are. Yes i need all the prayers to overcome the hurt and anxiety i am feeling within. Next week is his birthday and I had already booked a nice quiet holiday for him as a surprise (of course wasnt aware of this turn of events), so i will see how that goes. Also I have told myself..i loved him, always did..i love him now, i will continue doing that.in the course i will wait for him to open up…yes i think so…open communication is very important in every relationship and specifically for me. I will feel more sad if he didnt even confide in me rather than he did his past–as i said its ok, everyone has a past..but it matters when the love of your life dosent feel comfortable for some reason not to share it with you, Pls keep praying for me, i am praying too for inner peace and strength

Dear Ruminant,

He led me to believe he has told me everythng. He told me about his ex-wife very briefly and said he has been alone for long now, i can now see he hasnt been alone for that long at all.

Hi Ruminant,

Thank you for your reply and understanding. No i dont worry or feel sad for him having a past, it is only natural. It is also obvious that he would have treated his ex-es with care. What i feel sad about is about he not sharing this with me, when he knew that for me how important transparency is in relationships. I also had a past, i shared all with him..infact no one else knows so much in details as he knows. I did that BEFORE he took the decision to marry me. It hurts me to see that he has hidden things from me when he claims we are so close and I being his best friend. I wonder why did he choose to do that. 2ndly, on the colleague–the interaction is recent(the girl still works with him) as recent as last week when we went to a weekend trip togethr. he was so caring and concerning and I had thought it came out of him being a nice person. Its only later (post the trip) did I find out about the,. So its so obvious he still holds her dear in his heart and cares for her. I am sorry, but I am disturbed and hurt about the whole thing, and his colleague being now in his Present (though they might not have an active affair) dosent help the situation