I have been in a similar situation. It turns out he had been having an affair for several years and chose to keep me in the dark rather than reveal his actions. It hurts a lot. I did try my best to salvage the relationship but the reality is he already had left the marriage and I was just getting the memo. I feel angry at the situation but my faith gets me through the bad days. I have three young kids and the stress And strain is felt by them. We are all much happier living apart so for those that say staying together for the kids is a reason I disagree. Anyway guard your heart and find out the real reason for her words. The truth will be revealed in time. I am a survivor of a domestic abuse situation and in can tell you this is way more common than people think.