Hi,
I just want to give an update. Also, wondering how to deal with doubt and fear that i’m facing now?

So, my husband moved out last week finally. I was so relieved for the first two days, my nervous system was calming and was happy to take on life. Then I told my son that dad is not coming back (he thought he was on a business trip), he has moved to a condo and we have decided to be separate for 6 months or so. His initial response was – I love dad but i don’t like his presence. His presence adds so much stress. I was relieved and I enjoyed the weekend with him.
But my son seems to be angrier here and there, I’m trying to understand him and later on saying that I understand it’s difficult for you. he comes around but again goes back and forth. He looks sad, angry and sometimes happy and relaxed.

It’s VERY difficult for me to see my son being sad and angry, i feel like he feels that his dad has abandoned him and it’s heartbreaking to see that.

This morning i am questioning my decision –
– was it needed?
– why i am making my son go through this much pain? I know I haven’t made my decision out of nowhere, but i’m questioning did i give up so easily? Why am I so sensitive – can’t i be strong enough so that i can ignore his insults, bad mood etc?

There is noway i can go back to that life but from the last 2 months my husband was begging to not take this action and try couples therapy third time as he said he wants to change and i still did make this decision – so having lot of self-doubts?

Please help..

Thanks..I don’t know if I would call it a job well done as right now I feel like i’m in a shock, even though this is what I wanted but when it happened , I don’t know what to feel..Even though he was of no help, I do feel alone..I feel like I have to do everything on my own and whether I’ll be able to handle it..

More than anything right now I am very much concerned about my son..I wanted this to happen so if I have that strong reaction, not sure how my son will take the news..

Hi everyone,
My husband is finally moving out in a next few days as last sunday I told him to move out – i can’t stay anymore. He is very upset since then and saying lot of mean things to me – like I’m mentally-ill, I won’t survive – bad things will happen to me, i have big ego etc..

I’m very scared, i’m avoiding him by staying longer in the bathroom ..he is preparing the apartment so will stay for a few more days till he is ready to move out..

I don’t have any close friends in the area whom I can stay with for a few days – please suggest how to survive next few days..and i feel like i am a bad person..Please help!!

– Rita