I can relate to this in many ways even though I’m young. I’m 20 and I’ve been with my boyfriend since I started high school. As a kid we grew up together became best friends, we broke up half way through and eventually got back together. He works a lot in other countries and I go to university so we can never see each other often. I find that we speculate what could happen when he’s gone and we always plan to break up but it just never happens and when it does we get back together because of the guilt, it’s just so overwhelming. But I’m at a turning point in my life and I haven’t got in touch with any of my friends or really make an effort in university possibly because I feel like I’m in my comfort zone with him. When I’m by myself and he’s away, I feel jealous, anxious, lonely and the cons of the relationship start to add up. And then when I see him everything seems like it’s supposed to be and I have my special person back, this is a guy who tells me he loves me everyday, but then again I kinda start to feel unappreciated because he doesn’t really do romance which is what I want. I want to be taken out on dates, and bought flowers, is chivalry really dead?! I feel like I’m older than I should be. And because we’ve been together for so long I feel like my friends and family expect us to be together which is a lot of pressure. I don’t want to feel like I’ve failed the relationship but I also don’t want to feel this feeling of guilt.
Should I have broken up with him? After all our track record suggests that we will. Which makes me doubt myself and feel even more guilty. He’s a great guy. Can someone out there give me advice?