‘If I was there with you, I would console you, making you hot tea perhaps, or a cold lemonade if it is hot out. We would sit and talk and that would be so nice – wow it sounds great i would definetely recover fast. Thanks for ur kind words.

Perhaps maybe she too will have to experience the same or maybe who knows he might change himself later on. Whatever it is the pain  frustration and betrayal that im going thru is terrible.

But i have to forgive and forget. End of the we’re not gonna take anything from this world except for our good deeds isnt it ?

Hi Anita i dont think so that he will come back. And this is purely not a proposal thst his parents brought. He has been chatting n associating this girl for 5-6 months while he was acting the same way with me. I dont knw how he could do that. When he told me about this girl he also told that this girl is aware of me n she has scolded him saying what hes doing is wrong coz 7 years is too long. She saw my pic and even called me ‘sweet’ i really dunno how far these stories are. What he has told her is that due to parents issues it didnt work.

Can people change their feelings towards someone else so fast Anita? The person who was madly in love with me now doesnt care even to see if im alive or dead.

No Anita i dont think he will come back to me coz hes guilty. But even if he does its a no from me coz he broke my trust. We had issues so many we have argued i cannot say im super petfects in this relationship coz there were times i treated him bad also but thats bcoz i purely wanted a solution to our relationship apart from that I have never cheated him with another man. I actually cant do that couple of months back i did tell him twice that i dont think i can lovr or marry anyone else.

But even after telling that he left me. But he in the other hand did cheat me with a girl. Thats unbearable. And the last meet the way he said goodbye the way he told me tbat he cant help if i get hurt but he has no choice to take his parents side. All these have hit me hard.

As mentioned earlier i wont to dissappear from his life totally Anita where he can never find any details about me. If i shut all communication modes n if i move out from my country he would never come to know what happened to me unless i chose to stay connected which i wont.

No matter what it will be very hurtful for me to see him with someone else.

Risha

What appealed me was the way he loved me Anita. To be honest he always made me alive meaning i got the maximum attention, the calls, the messages the way he pleads the way he comes running to see me. If i didnt answer he becomes restless he comes looking for n stands righr in front of me. Wherever i go whatevet i do hes just there with me. So i cant imagine a person like him changed so fast.  Whenever i block him he waits outside my home. Comes to my work place i dunno Anita no matter how much i tried to stay away from him he somehow gets back to me

Yes Anita I meant bad words. He use a lot of bad words when hes angry and  later says he does it bcoz he loves me. I got a lot of proposals before i met him but i was not happy with any. I never felt anything towards anyone n also i spoke to few and nothing clicked so i was fed up thats where i met him and from the first instance itself i started to like him. I know he too felt the same way. Even when i wss with him i got proposals but i didnt cinsider any coz i was madly in love with him and i still do.

Yes im very practical, down to earth, too helpful, too kind, and i always put others first than my own priorities. Thats what has put me into this situation.

Thank u Anita

Anita im so surprised the way you have have judged him yes he was not a asset to me in life. Meaning – his love was only calling, messaging, giving attention, intetfering into my activities, suspecting me, blaming me. But he did nothing to my well beign.

Even if i need advise he gives the dumbest possible advise. I mean he always wanted a kushi life with no struggle no stress spending lavishly and a bit of a show off. On the other hand im totally oppositte im his support system. I have helped him so many ways. Even financially. Whereever he is today in life its all bcoz of me. He knows he can count on me anytime. I gave my heart and sould in evety aspect of his life. I go to the extend of helping him to do the best. But i never got that in returm Anita.

To be honest i have struggled a lot in life and i know what hardships are. I have reached this place today with a lot of struggle. And since my siblings are away i took care of my parents my dad was a bit sick so i had lot of responsibilities and after he passed away i still have few personal commitments. Sometimes he laughs at me saying i have no life im such a boring person. My siblings are using me. Etc. He abuses me a lot saying i bave connections with other ppl. But i tolarated eveything n i saw lot of selfishness in  him.

He always wants to see me but if refuse he abuses me in filth i know u will be surprised to read this. We were basically like Tom & Jerry always fighting but couldnt stay without each other.

But he was the only man i had after my dad left me and that was a strength for me he just been there. Apart from that he was never supportive to me.

I use to tell him if he had so many negative stuff to say about me he can skways leave but then he says i tell you all these things bcoz i love u and i will never lrave u.

So now i realized all what he meant about me is true he was just waiting coz he was not able to find someone else. Once he found he just walked out.

Risha

Yes Until I forget  my past completely I will not be able to move on. Even God will not open doors for me and help me if I am not ready to let go my past.

So yes I will try my best to completely shut him off from my life and focus on my future.

Thank you once again Anita.

Risha

Hi Anita,

Though I decided not to send the email I still feel there’re lot of untold things to him and its bothering me. I mean he’s the only person whom I communicated with apart from my family. I wish if I can get answers from him for all my questions coz he left me with lot of doubts. I actually trusted him more than myself. I never ever thought he would cheat me coz he was that attached to me.

but after my last meet he treated me as a stranger which is still unbearable. I never expected our relationship would end this way. So deep down my heart I wish I can talk to him for the one last time. But sadly I know I cant do that coz he has made up his mind.

the second thing is I’m not sure if I am to block him and delete him from my social media accounts. if I delete its like I will lose him forever and if I didn’t I might get hurt to see his updates.so for the moment I have deactivated my accounts coz I don’t want to delete him.

I told him that I wont block him either but to make sure not to reach me if he values me. But I told that with anger but so far he never tried to reach me. I see him online on whats app all the time but I’m scared to block him.

So I’m kind of clueless if I’m to shut him off completely from life or not. Both ways will hurt me a lot

Risha