Hi Anita,  What you have said is the absolute truth. I really appreciate your kindness for remembering each and every thing and also going thru my thread and advising me accordingly. Yes he has lied to me from the beginning with his dramatic stories and I thought he was very sensitive and didn’t want to hurt him but he ended up hurting me so deeply making me feel worthless.

I  hate the fact that I was been treated this way and I am a fool for giving him the chance to treat me this way. But now I cannot do anything about it instead face the reality.

Anyway I know no point regretting and thinking over what he did. I have to at least think about my own self and yes I will definitely not let him reach me ever again and I will make sure that he cannot find any information about me.

It’s not at all easy for me to come out of this and unfortunately day by day Its not getting better for me but  am trying my best to be strong.

” Don’t give him your blessing or your forgiveness” – No Anita I am definitely not.

I don’t think I want to work here anymore. I will try to move out from my country or else I will definitely leave my current work place and move out to a different place. Working in the same office will not help me to recover and things might get worst.

Thank you so much Anita – I never thought I will find my  Guardian Angels online. You all have been a great support and strength to me. Hugs

Risha

Yes Anita i told him clearly during our converstation.

Yes I can complain about him to the relavant unit to advise him. However I dont want to do that. This is not the first time Anita he has been trying to reach me forcefully during our entire relationship by threatening etc I never had a peace of mind. I cant talk, smile or move with anyone at all he fights me uses abusing words, It was all so painful and I tolarated him so much because I loved him and I thought he was so protective towards me.

Today when I woke up I kind of feel I am in shock because I still cant belive that this has happened to me. Im moving on with a great difficulty. I know it will take sometime for me to move out from my work place and country.

I cant believe this has affected my life so much. It seems like I have to change my life style totally. Also change is also not very easy i know I have to do a lot of work to get there and also once the change is done initially i may have a lot of struggle to settle. Whereas he is conveniently moving on with his life with a new person very smoothly.

Its not something that anyone should cope up at this age and all by herself. He kept saying in his email that Iam a steong girl. So i guess thats why he decided he can hurt me brutually and i cant handle it.

It hurts so much. Sometimes I feel the pain within me and I feel my entire body is giving up. Also it hurts to hear him say to marry someone else. Those words are spinning through my ears. It might be easy for him to move quickly with someone else. But I cant do that. How can that happen.

What Iam sad is it took me 7 years to understand the real picture of him.

Hi Anita,

Yes Anita, after I spoke over the phone he sends me an email  again in the evening asking me not to be stubborn and to consider getting married and if I can to forgive him.

He also has stated that ‘we both are going through a difficult phase especially me and some day we will meet somewhere in this world. I will always be in his heart forever and to always remember that there’s a person who is always waiting to see my Happiness”

I really don’t understand his selfishness. he destroyed my life and happiness and what else does he have to see. I just cant believe that I dated such a heartless person.  After doing everything he’s still trying to make me believe that he cares for me more than anyone in this world.

I certainly feel bad for these kind of people. “Well, now you know what he wanted to say to you. Why does he wants your forgiveness and promise that you marry another man” – Yes I am very clear about what he wants he just simply wants me to give the maximum to him by tolerating  all his betrayal and  also its as if its my duty to forgive him. He certainly does not care what I am going thru and how I feel. He’s trying to leave me with nothing by forgiving him so that he can have a peace of mind and move on.

I really felt sorry for myself for all what he is expecting from me. Also I feel so uncomfortable to work here because few of his friends knows about this other girl and today I felt as if they were looking at me and feeling sorry for me. I just want to leave this place before he gets married and go  public about it. I don’t want face that day because I feel it will break me again if I happen to work at the same place.

The situation where he has put me through is very hurtful. He took away all what I had, This entire relationship has affected me in every way. My age, time, career, health, I seriously have to do a lot of hard work to get better.

Bubba – didn’t know you were experiencing the same.  So these kind of behavior seems to be very normal in guys. They somehow doesn’t want to take the blame I guess. They are trying every tact tics to make them feel good.

Risha

Hi All,

He came to my office today and was standing out of my room and peeping at me twice he figured that I saw him and he walked out. Thereafter he went back to his office and again called me on my office phone. I didn’t answer.

I don’t understand his Drama. If he had to say something he could have told me when he came to my office. Why do you think he’s behaving this way? Its really hard to make up mind. If he has moved he should keep quiet without disturbing. This is something that he always did whenever I avoided me he somehow comes and gets friendly this way. but now the story is different he has another woman and he has moved out. So why bother to even come and see me. Is he feeling sorry for me?

Risha

Hi Bubba, how long have it been since you broke up? “I have cried in my car, at home, in bed and etc. Eventually at some point you stop crying so much” – this is so true how much I post I will be strong I find myself end up crying. Its really stressful to go thru this no matter how much I feel to forget it looks very hard.

Today I was wondering if its my fault as well coz for the last one year I haven’t showed much affection to him and I tried pushing him away and wanted to stop this because our relationship was not leading anywhere. I wanted him to stand up for me and get things done. But he never gave up on me he came after me forcefully but did nothing to get settled though. So now he claims that he moved out bcoz of his parents and also bcoz I pushed him away. In fact he has posted a video on social media about how it feels when one has been rejected in a relationship and now he feels he has concurred everything in life in result of this rejection. I felt as if he’s trying to pass the ball into my court as if its my fault and he’s trying to make up his mind.

I actually had my reasons to push him away but now I am wondering wether its my fault? Did I open the door and show him the way to move out? is that what has happened. I don’t know why this came to my mind in the morning. Even if I had not pushed him still there wont be a solution coz he would never convince his parents and we will be continuing the relationship by fighting with each other.

Either way I know this relationship was complicated and we both couldn’t find a solution but finally he decided to leave me by cheating me and that’s how he wanted to end up I guess and that was his solution not to convince his parents instead to please them by hurting me and leaving me for another person for their own benefits. But if he truly loved me and wants me in his life when I met him for the last time he could have accepted me but he lied to me on my face and called me and told me he cannot do anything and he has to stick to the person whom his parents would approve.

I am totally still confused, sad, hurt, depressed, etc and nothing seems to be working in favour of me.

I know its not ok to keep evaluating as what happened and why it happened coz the end result is he doesn’t want me in his life anymore. But my stubborn heart is not letting me accept the truth.

Yes Michelle I am sad to know what you and Bubba have gone through in life but  I am glad I found you’ll to share the same experience. Even Anita I know what you went through too. Hugs to all of you.

Risha

Dear someone,

Thanks for reading my post and im touched by ur words yes u re absolutely right about the offline friends they re of course busy with their own lives.

Yes i want to move out from my workplace and also to a totally different place. I hope everything will work well.

Yes forgetting ur love is very difficult and when u end up a long relationshio thats even more hard. Im trying my best to be strong. And im glad i found few online friends who could console me.

Thanks again for ur advise n kind words. Keep in touch take care !

Hi Anita,

If I do send that email to his GF and parents i dont think it would matter to them bcoz i know for sure that his parents must be on top of the moon to know that my chapter is closed finally. On the other hand i dont think it will matter to that girl as well coz i feel shes looks so happy with him and enjoying every moment. As per him shes aware of his 7 year affair with me n the reason why he left me. I dont know how far its true but shes ok with that. So whatever i say wouldnt matter to her coz now he belongs to her.

Also Anita I have done enough for people. I always did good to the others i never gave priority to myself. So Im tired of taking care of others by risking my own life. Lesson learnt from this relationship is to hold on to what u want no matter what. So let her enjoy everymoment. He might be faithful for her at least.

Risha