Hi Anita,

‘if he feels badly about it at times, this is a consequence of his choice’  – Yes i know its out of my control. I wish if he moves out from my life totally.

Yes i shouldnt be giving him the slightest hint that i will be available for him when he wants.

He has been continously calling me for the last 3 weeks. Today was a holiday so so he cant contact me. I dont knw if he would continue this tmrw as well. I will keep u posted. Thank u very much Anita appreciate your kindness as always !

Risha

Hi Anita,

I haven’t still got out of this mess bcoz he keeps calling me on my office number. I am so tired of looking at my phone ring the whole day. I really feel sorry for him to I mean why is he doing this to me and to himself. Wont he get fed up calling this way. He has been calling me continuously for the last two weeks when I don’t even respond.

Last Friday he had sent a viber message to my Mom’s phone and luckily I had the phone with me. ‘he said I have been talking and messaging other guys and have mentioned some names and he got to know it thru one of my friends and I was the one who had cheated him and hes very disappointed’ after reading these messages I blocked him immediately from my Mom’s number.

I really don’t understand this Anita. I am already suffering with the break up and on top of that he’s confusing me and blaming me for no reason. Maybe he’s trying a way to get thru to me or talk to me. But how long can a person do this. I’m very worried over him.

My Friends are asking me to complain our office heads so that they will warn him or they want me to call his parents and to complain about his behavior.

I really don’t want to do any of this Anita. I don’t want him to have any issues at work by complaining against nor do I want him to have any issues with his family.

I am just clueless as what to do and how to stop him call me.

Risha

Hmmm I really I dont know yes maybe its true maybe he just wants me around him and maybe he thpught he can have some kind of communication with me anytime he wants.

If he really want me back he would have told me that when he came to see me last week so his intentions are totally different i guess.

I get panic when he calls me this way. Actually on friday when i told there was around 100 miss calls at one point i felt so sorry for him bcoz of the effort that he was taking to call me. I mean i dont think any normal person could that when thered no response from other side.

Anyway i hope he stops this drama coz its very difficult for me to move on when he disturbs me time to time.

Risha

Hi Anita,

Yes Its been one month for today since we broke up and unfortunately I still feel the same. Last week he tried to reach me via my  office number but I didn’t pick the phone. on Friday he kept calling continuously more than 100 miss calls I guess (nobody would believe this) coz that’s the only way he can reach then in the evening he walked into my office and was standing right in front of me smiling  and he said he came to give me something.  but i never saw anything with him.

I didn’t know what to say or do so I reacted very harshly and told him why on earth is he coming after me if he has another woman and I told him to leave from my cabin then he told me ‘ok I’m going forever’ then I told that’s what you did already and I told him arnt you shame to even come over here after all what you did, then he said I didn’t come after u I came to ask why are u calling my friends and he walked out.

So it was time to leave office and on my way I got a call from a different number and when I answered it was him he told me not to keep the phone and was accusing me saying ‘stop contacting my friends and the way he spoke to me was very rude with no respect I was so sad and hurt to hear him shout at me. He did the worst thing for me and yet trying to blame me. Then I told him you have already hurt me and is this how you talk to me and whatever I do in my life is non of your business. then he again shouted saying ‘ohh ok so u did call my friend will see’ and he kind of threatened me and cut the line.

I was out of words shattered as for what happened.

But Anita now why do I feel  whether he came to see me because he change his mind and he wanted me back ? but since I was harsh to him did he also react in a harsh and walked out without telling me what’s in his mind. Now this is bothering me a lot did I mess it up not that I want him back but I think I could have just listened to him at least. But why i reacted that way is because i was scared if he would hurt me again if he just came to see me since he was feeling sorry for me.

What do u think?

Risha

Honeyblossom – ‘I understand.  I believe you will love sgain.  You havent met that person yet’ – Thanks but  I am not sure if I am able to move on I am just frustrated with everything.

I don’t know what to do but I will keep posted for any updates. Take care until then !

Hi Anita,

My emotions keeps changing sometimes I am Angry, sad, frustrated, hurt, and most of the times I am totally Blank like a zombie.  No matter what I feel and how bad he has treated me deep down my heart I feel I still love him. I don’t know why I feel this way I just feel I will never be able to love someone else. Its so hard to live this way.

Risha

Hi Anita,

I had to connect my messenger yesterday because I had to contact a friend of mine so when I got connected I saw my ex online but he quickly went offline in few min after one hour I got a message from him asking me to check my viber msg Ignored then he called me on messenger I didn’t pick. after that he sent me messages accusing me by saying ‘I have been contacting a friend of his and that I have been communicating with that person for some time and all of you are same but I never thought u will do like this’ one after the other he was messaging me. So I did not let him go further instead straight away I blocked him.

Actually I have deactivated my fb account and messenger since I had to contact my friend who just came from overseas I connected yesterday because I didn’t have a contact number to call. at that point I never realized my ex was there.

I really don’t understand this man. He couldn’t tolerate to see me online and wanted to blame me and come up with a conversation. I think he wants me to shut myself from everything totally. But if he left me why r these things bothering him and even if I did communicate with that boy what is his problem.

What on earth does he want from me. On Friday he sends me a polite email asking to forgive him and marry someone else and he’s waiting to see my happiness etc. Then yesterday he’s messaging me blaming me.

Sometimes I am very worried for his behavior. I have anyway blocked him from everything after I spoke to him on Friday but I forgot about the messenger since it was deactivated. So he would have realized he cant reach me at all so when he saw me online he quickly wanted to chat.

If he has a another woman why is he still trying to have contacts with me even on Friday he was very clear of his decision and he made me believe that he does not  want me and that he’s going out of my life.

He left me that’s fine now when I’m trying to move on he’s again trying to reach me by accusing me for unwanted things. I never contacted any of his friends I’m just been to myself.

Couple of month back he told me that he’s going mad and he feel like consulting a doctor a phycologist. I think he needs some kind of help to clear his mess which is in his head.

Risha

Hi Honey Blossom,

Thanks for your kind words, ‘I am so glad you are not with him (or his parents)’ – Yes his parents were very rude to me from the beginning. His mother called and told I’m too old for her son. Early this year  his Father called me  and threatened me to stop the relationship and he was aware of what his parents did but he told he will never leave me no matter what.

So I don’t deserve such treatment because I am coming from a different background and my parents are very kind and humble.

Thanks once again honey blossom! Thanks for you blessings and I appreciate your kindness.

Risha