Hello Mimi,
‘Struggling’ means we are spinning our wheels. It’s a sign of low state of mind and not a good time to make decisions and try to understand things. Go for a walk, do whatever you know to do to let your mind quieten down. In our quieter moments we are more able to hear the innate intelligence we all have. You have it too. Set any goals or no goals for yourself when you are in a quieter mind and a good feeling, not when your are immersed in the struggle.

Best wishes,

Richard