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JamesParticipant
Thank you all for your kind words of wisdom. Over the weekend I took a step back from Social media and already feel better for it. I don’t feel the need to check it as soon as I wake up every morning to see if anyone has tweeted at me etc. and even though I had a few unpleasant things to deal with over the weekend, I didn’t feel the need to seek attention and sympathy via social media.
@Anita I took your advice and started noticing that I do beat myself up too much about things and started having a bit of compassion for myself and congratulating myself for the little victories I have had over the weekend from not being tempted to go on social media. I feels a lot better than the fake gratification I get from likes and retweets!
@Patrick I never thought of it that way before. In the past when I have had social media breaks, I have 100% treated it as a punishment for the way I have acted which made me want to go on it more. Now that I am treating it as time away from social media as a cleansing of negativity from my life I am already feeling like I don’t need the gratification, attention and sympathy I used to crave on Twitter.
@Meredith I agree. It’s so much easier to complain and be negative from behind a keyboard or smartphone but I’ve found that the negativity that I feel inside is unnoticeable at first and slowly increases until I feel really bad about myself. Focusing on other more important things in my life and getting satisfaction from these things instead of social media will hopefully make me see that I don’t need it.JamesParticipantI don’t feel like I get criticised a lot, the only place where I do get criticised is at work and I tend to take it too personally. I don’t really get criticised on social media, but I do tend to be very critical of myself and the way I act. This probably stems again from caring too much about what people think about me when in reality, I am not the focus of everyone’s thoughts.
I guess I just need to try and be in a more positive headspace and try and remove myself from negative environments (ie: Twitter).
@Patrick I think you are absolutely right. I am way to critical of myself and tend to beat myself up about stuff rather than actually solving the problems. I also get lazy and let myself fall back into familiar bad habits.JamesParticipantHi Tina,
Thank you very much for your reply. Yes, I’m very much the same outside of social media when I think about it, I have been known to have a short temper and can fly off the handle and rant about things with the slightest nudge. I also have a bit of a complex with caring too much about what people think about me and take criticism very personally.
I took a 2 month break from Twitter earlier on in the year and when I returned, I was a lot better for a while. Unfortunately I have recently returned to my old habits and behaviours so you’re probably right. I need to distance myself for a bit longer while I figure things out.
Thanks again for your helpful words.
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