It seems to me that whenever people get emotional about fiancial issues, one or the other (or both) of the parties’ has a basic ego problem. The issue of control of finances in a relationship must be approached from a loving and caring attitude that even puts the other person at least on an equal level, despite who is providing more or less income. Let your ego go and enjoy the loss of control. This will be the most emotionally profitable thing you can do. If you can’t, get some therapy.
Dan