Hi Heather. To understand your situation better, here are some questions:

– Are these people in your team or in a different team to you?
– How is your relationship with your manager/superior?
– Who else feels the same in the office?

The reason I ask is that perhaps looking at the wider picture will give you some perspective. Of course, if others are experiencing the same thing, then it is not OK to just allow it to happen. But it will help you see if this is something that is aimed at you, or a cultural thing in your office.

What conversations have you had on this topic with a person of influence (by which I mean your manager or HR)? Feeling like this in the office is not something anyone should experience – and it sounds to me like you are ready to take some action.

Much love,
Razwana

Hi Jacqueline. Great topic and one that is rather close to my heart!

I’m not one for crying in the office, but in my last job, I did just that with a man that was simply a bully. I spent a long time blaming him for it, and I gave him all the power over me.

When I finally stopped and considered things from his perspective, I saw him for what he really was – insecure, misunderstood and lashing out as a result.

This helped me deal with the emotional side of it. I then, of course, discussed his behaviour with my manager and eventually HR. It resulted in a *slight* change in his behaviour (i wish I could say it was a miraculous transformation, but it sadly wasn’t the case) which made my life easier whilst I was with the business.

– Razwana