Dear Pamela

I can clearly relate with everything you have just wrote about being in a relationship with a narcissist, I never really realised who he really was until he started mistreating me , they take more energy from you and give back no effort whatsoever except for criticism and judgement. I was with this person on and off for over a year and I constantly either kept on buying into everything he manipulated me into or I’d somehow feel so bad that I’d end up crawling back to him even though I did nothing wrong even being myself wasn’t enough I had to be the person he wanted me to be even though I not even once judged or criticized him about his character or personality which was pretty unfair , it’s usually a painful time after the break up and cutting all ties with the person but its definitely worth it, I hope you’ve started finding inner peace as well I sure it wasn’t easy going through the process of a divorce and starting a new chapter.

But with so much history of emotional abuse is it ever wise or possible to still be “friends” with someone like a narcissist?

I honestly don’t think so but I’d really someone else’s opinion  especially in my case since I’ve completely cut all ties with him

he still reaches out to me for “friendship” I just don’t understand why

Dear Anita

To answer your first question of if I no longer have any communication with him , the answer is “No” I also ended all social media communication with him as well.

I needed time to myself and i still do but at the same time I had to officially move on too the situation between me and him ended after a huge blow up of an argument around towards the end of July of 2016 there hasn’t been any communication from my side since then , after our deal breaker of an argument he blocked my number and I wouldn’t of known of how he’s real reaction was like because he refused to see me during that course of the time even refused to see me on my birthday on the 11th of July tried to arrange to see him to talk in person many times but with no luck this all happened over the phone via text..

the duration of when “the relationship” started was around September of 2014 on and off again until July of 2016 and the situationship is officially over

though he tried to reach out to me in March this year via text , I avoided all communication with him

I’m just still dealing with the after effects of it all I just don’t know why healing has taken this long and why I find it so hard to forgive him.