I guess in response I think she should know but I guess I feel like maybe if I tell her it will make me feel bad about myself as although he has done the deed I will be the one causing the hurt in that moment so I think I will feel responsible.

Also I guess I feel responsible for him which is ridiculous, with all the things going on in the world I worry maybe he is unhappy and he didn’t know how to do the right thing and by telling her it will cause him distress too.

I know how crazy that sounds, I obviously feel a heightened sense of responsibility for other people and I’m quite a sensitive and an empath and feel things quite deeply , I don’t want to end up blaming myself for any fall out.

Yet obviously I have this on my mind still so I need to resolve it some how

That’s correct I did post a while ago and wanted to tell her but I lost my nerve as I was worried about causing her upset after the guy told me she has anxiety and panic attacks , I realise this may well not be true and even if it is he is the one in the wrong but I didn’t want to cause hurt.

However I’m now thinking this over again as I have become aware he has been trying to meet other women online again saying he was single, so it’s brought up regret at maybe not saying somwtgsos sooner.

I guess I’m just quite a sensitive person too and don’t like upset but it’s obviously bothering me and I feel for her too .