Hi Anita,

I don’t think I expressed that kind of worry all the time. You said a spark can be turned off for no particular reason. I hope that is not the case though, haha

Hi neversaynever,

I really do hope I get the second shot, I wish it would be so simple. You said I was kind of all over her. Yes, that’s accurate partly because it’s my first, partly because I was really impressed by her, extremely down-to-earth, not materialistic, no princess-y attitude, etc. I don’t think I was too needy though.

I am always being myself (which might be bad since I am always treating people nicely and extra nice to important people) but yea, now it’s just fun bantering whenever I have the opportunity to talk to her.

Hi Anita,

I don’t think it’s the fear, I think it’s more of just preventing it. We had a few casual conversations while we were together and we had the same opinion regarding arguments and quarrels: if we can give in to each other whenever we can, why would we want to disrupt the peace? I mean, nobody likes arguments and quarrels, there’s no peace at all when it happens.

Regarding the part “you were careful to not cause her irritation, very cautious- avoiding any possible conflict, maybe being passive, submissive, maybe limiting the communication with her to light, superficial topics. It could be in that limiting, that she lost the spark. Maybe she wanted deeper conversations. Maybe she tried deeper topics but you avoided them.”, I don’t think I was careful/cautious/passive/submissive because I speak what’s on my mind, open and honest to her.

I am not too sure what you mean by deeper topics, but I’ll just carry on typing (correct me if I’m wrong). I do talk to her and it can be about anything. There were times when we spoke about the memorable experiences before we knew each other, how those experiences (such as assuming a leadership role) has changed our mindsets and perspectives of certain stuff in life. I always mentioned this to her and my friends: Like looking back, how a decision we made have led to chain reactions, how it has allowed us to meet, how it has gotten us to where we are now (individually and together). Of course, there are too many conversations to list, but yea, these are some of the few conversations (If this is what you meant by deeper conversation topics)

Hi Anita,

Ugly in the sense I didn’t want to make a big fuss out of it, convincing her to not give up on us yet till the point she gets irritated.

They were referring the “selfish” part as like she didn’t want to try at all to rekindle the dwindling spark, but merely she just wanted to feel single and see how life will treat her without me.