Hello der…! i guess u r too much thinking on this issue…u r alreay on a great path n that too very early..i must say that ! hope u get more clear with yourself in future… all j need to say is that… we all are humans…we need love… sometimes attention , advise, friendships,care,is misinterpret as love or may say attraction ! You must see ur wife..she is your better half.. anyone whos ur acquaintence should not be so imp. or may say be der on your mind any time! And may be des feelings are just d part of help u want to do to her… I guess more thinking would give u more clarity… i wud just advise..please be Honest towards dat wonderful lady who is your wife… rest no one is important in comparison with her ! 🙂

Im sory due to some problem in my phone..my reply got posted here….
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Hello Helen.. thankyou for putting up this beautiful question…
i myself think on this manyatimes..and i can say to some extent ..got someclarity.. so wants to share with you…
Helen we all are every minute changing.. a new thought in our mind..n we r no more the same… any incidence which doesnt change us physically or emotionally…still has power to change us subconciously… say e.g. u told… a quiet self concious girl can idolize a free wild confident girl… reason can be motivation from that outside source or one’s willingness to step out of one’s life style… change is always ..always for betterment… the moment we like something…we either wants it to be der so that it can make us feel good,(as we can easily relate to things that makes us feel gud)…or we begin to change bit by bit to be like that something..say a smiling person we met in d train..we saw him greeting everyone..,even strangers…and kind to children..compassionate for wk n old.. dont we feel good..and silently promie that i will also be like to be like him/her… its not because we want to be like someone…but because we all strive for goodness…peace..and we all wants to love and be loved…. so to do so..we keep changing..an introvert would not remain so forever in his/her lifetime…similarly a chatterbox might change to a serene personlality…we all change..grow…and make ourselves better each day…knwingly..or unknwngly… so no barriers in improvements..and no barriers to change…. 🙂
God Bless..

hello DEAR Sia
i can say i can relate to you in many sense .. thanks for sharing… but sometimes we just have to be what we feel..without having judging us for being the way we are..
like ..if you are angry…allow yourself to be angry…dont crib..dont judge yourself…
please start with writing in a journal…write all what u feel throughout day..either as paras or small points… Please start working on the issue..rather than thinking over it long…. we are here with you..and you will come out of this issue…as Winner my dear Sia….
running short of time…. sorry .. would revert to u asap
god bless..

hi Anirudh
with God’s blessings on me… i can say YES i have found my Real Purpose in life…
hope your journey has begun… hope to hear from you about your Purpose…
and that day we would share each other’s Purpose 🙂
ALL THE BEST… have faith in God always….

hi Samiha
i would say you are a courageous girl..manyatimes we just sit back and dont do anything..but you stood up and told about ur situation openly to your family.. der would rarely be an instance when family takes things like this positively.. dont blame them.. neither the guy nor his father… but yes believe in yourself and your God…your source who made you… that power has not made you to suffer….sometimes we dont see light ..but der is always a way.. God’s way..believe in him.. MIRACLES DO HAPPEN.. and to those with faith in themselves…n in GOD…..
I would suggest you to write all your problems..and then solutions as you want of those problems…
keep reading the solutions daily thrice(solutions should be positive…not of negative impact to anyone),…. why i m telling you to read it thrice…is because it would make u feel that all that is happening..and u would be in a state of positivity.. i knw it would be little difficult..but things would be great if u have faith and be positive…. pray for ur uncle’s health also.,..pray for everyone… your prayers would be answered….
all the best Samiha..never loose hope….as God is great… 🙂 he will make all good for you…..

hi Anirudh and all those who are reading this …
I m going to write what i have felt and done in my life..
there are times when we get stuck in life..feeling numb and see no one actually getting along us..with our mind..thoughts and feelings… then we just come to this question to ask ..whats the real purpose..why am i here..why…….
to me…the answer came before the question… We all are God’s beautifull and most Perfect Creation…humans…we are sent to this world with a PURPOSE,… God has kept that Purpose inside us… we need to find that..realize it..n start working on it…..he made happiness with sufferings… he made good with bad…same he made us..with our Purpose attached…
To that i would say..there are people who realize what they want to be in der lives..like some wants to be Doctor..some Engineer..Writer..some Social worker..Journalist…etc… but we all serve a Purpose while doing that.. A social worker is doing his/her work with dedication ,compassion and making the world a better place to live.. a Writer is writing a book..which shall motivate a reader reading it even after 10 years of its publishing… we create ripples…help one another..and make this world a better place by being der for each other in a way that this God’s creative world is worth living… and we at the same time enjot the life we have been given…serve our Purpose and come back to heavens to meet him… 🙂

i had so much to write on this…still hae..but too much would not help.. hope i made some ease for your searching Anirudh…
thanks