Hello Samrat mandal
I can feel ur pain frnd,as my best friend too has OCD.
You knw everyone will tel u its uncurable
,many will tel you something which will make u question on ur own existence , but let me tell u that we are all humans and we all suffer ! Yeah, we all suffer either physical or mental or emotional pain in our lives,only those who live with the positivity in them lives well.
Dear friend when my best friend is wondering why he is thinkng soo much on a trivial thing which any normal person wil not even pay attention to,or how can he think such a horrible situation /consequences/result of any situation ,he really starts feeling pitty for himself, but he truly feels better n tries to move on from such thoughts when he shares.
He has a gud support of friends who accept him.,listen to him even when he is repeating himself,
I personaly keep asking him what he is thinkng ,whats bothering him..and when he shares it helps him to feel better n stronger !

I wud suggest you to have people around u who understand to, listen to u and assure you that these are just thoughts!
I knw always havng such people arnd u isnt possible, thats y i accompanied my best friend to Pychiatrist who askd him to do ERP(exposure n response prevention)which really helps and medication.
Though these treatment procedures takes time,but he is better. So i wud suggest u to consult one too.

My friend i wud ask u to involve in ur day today life with minimal stress,as stress increases these racing thoughts n then the cycle.
My friend these are thoughts which ur mind is compelling u to think,these thoughts are not yours, never think negative..a lot of people has it !
You can see videos on net,how people cope with them
I would request you to start keeping a journal this will help u be happy n fight racing negative thoughts
Have faith in god n learn meditation and do it daily,your kind needs to relax, eat less fat,more vitamins minerals n roughage containing food.
Regular exercise will keep u healthier n positive.
Dont feel low my friend.. You will be fine. Just few changes in your life style n u wug be better 🙂
All the best
Do post after a month or so. Wud love to knw ur progress
God bless you
Happy life😊

Hi olivia Hopkins
First of all i wud like to congratulate you on your success of building yourself into a person n being proud of yourself., friend im also proud of You. I think your girl frnd has her own reasons to not forgive you and keep thinking and blaming you about the things that were in past, see its an individual preference and wisdom to let go or hold on to things and in this case she is preferring to hold on.
But one thing with all my heart i want to say is that Love is about forgiving and love is about forgetting too, if we truly live somebody and see his/her efforts to be better ,this change should be appreciated and welcomed with open arms and reward of changing must be forgiveness and forgetfulness.
If i would have been at your place i would have kept loving her and at the same time would have gone after my dreams.. Coz thats my real calling
Olive if someone has to be with you he or she will make it with you . Why dont you give her a chance to miss you or think about forgetting all what happened and get over it and then cone with you. Dear go out for your dreams.,thats your purpose in life , in case you are still doubtful i would suggest be calm n think wudnt you have let her follow her dream if she had got a chance to do so ,rather than thinkng to drop the idea n staying with you.
You have done your part in this relationship you have been through everything and im sure you have grown as a wise person so move to this opportunity this will definitely open new doors in life for you. Im very hopefull if u will follow your dream,your calling you will get many things which you never imagined ever..
Go friend. Live for yourself once
I would love to knw abt your decision
Pls post it !

• This reply was modified 9 years, 8 months ago by Purpose.
• This reply was modified 9 years, 8 months ago by Purpose.

Hello @Little Buddha
soo good to see that you have such a kind soul.. im Proud of You and i felt great after reading your post, You are setting an example of how beautiful humans are ..despite all the flaws !
Thanks for sharing buddy !
so about your confusion.. i would say..if i had been at your place Little Buddha… i would have definately called her mother and talked to her frankly..trust me..mothers are full of love ,compassion and acceptance…they dont judge. Her Mother would definately talk to you and liaten to you..and you will feel good after telling her all what you have to say.
It is very much required to tel others how they have helped us and how thankful we are to them,irrespective of other things( in ur case ur break up ,it should not stop You to tel her mom how much u are grateful you are)
So dear go and call her… if not possible mail her and write everything what you want to say…
and one thing more.. please… dont blame yourself for the break up..its always from both the sides.. you dont have to be that harsh on yourself, we all go through emotional times.. but this should make us better..and not bitter
🙂
so go ahead… Trust me..you will pat yourself for doing this !

we all would like to knw what and how u told her mother..keep in touch !God BLess