Dear Anita ,

As u asked me if i know that male friend from 3 months ?

Noo . I know him  or 2nd male friend before knowing my latest man …

and i went to travel with him without staying night or sharing accommodation  . It was 10a-11 am  till 4 pm  than i returned.  At 9 am i called my bf told him i m going to another city as i informed him before traveling also .

Dear Anita,

i sm focusing on my studies right  now. I have been disturbed for a while because of the silent abd ghosting thing in my relationship. But now i m again in and focusing to graduate successfully On time.

Ya i would love to share some of interaction with him so u can give ur review on it .

One of my mutual friend gave him my contact so rhat i could guide or consult him about admission process etc .

I have very helpful nature from childhood i always try to help people so i started guiding him   Which normally people doesn’t do here or make it a business for earning money well . We exchanged voice msgs nd i tried to help extraordinarily which i was doing too like sending him notes so that he start preparing for entrance test in my uni . Thn again he wrote me on Facebook that he wants my help when i replied he dint msged me back till one day when he texted me that he got admission in uni and moving here .and was searching for room / apartments.

He was very good at communicating like he used to start talking like sweet amd appreciating ,  being helpful etc .

So he moved to city and he asked if we can meet i was glad meeting him because i was so happy he got admission and everything. He gave me chocolate we had coffee and started talking normally .

Then he called me again once about a suggestion regarding studies after that i asked him if he need my notes (bcz i was shifting he said he would love too )

once i was in library we were not friends .we were exchanging msgs nd i asked him if he is also in library or university thn we can have 20 minutes break nd have a coffee but he said he isnt there but he would come there if i m in library . I said ya come ( i thought he ll come to study) he came for meeting me .. we had small conversation .and thn he asked me if i need help in moving he ll come .. i said i ll let him knw .

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Thn we started meeting in library as i Preparing for supply exam and he ws preparing for the same exam too . We were meeting and it was fun .we were very good friends .i started discussing about my ex as i was already broken up . Meanwhile he asked me how many bf i had ? And

there was our another mutual friends  who was interested in me and used to flirt with me . He used to pump him about me so that he comes to talk to me and he check my reaction ,or how do i react . I dont really knw why he used to manipulate him to talk to me and flirt with me ..

once he told me that when he showed my picture to his female friend she commented about me that „she is very Beautiful,and your children will also be beautiful „ in other words she made him think about me and also his best friend who admired me while talking to him .

And another time he said he ll make me talk to hid best friend when we were friends .after coming to relationship he never made me talk to his best friend . Even when he was talking to him infront of me .i felt a bit awkward that why is it so ?? He rarely shared with me what he talks with his best friend . In beginning of relationship i used to ask him what he talked to him and he used to reply most of the time why u want to know after a week i left asking him …. i thought he talk about us and was obsessed a bit but according to me his best friend had all information about us like wether i m staying at his place or i m moving out etc .

Hallo Anita , thank you for your post .

Ya i m hopeful that i will geraduate successfully ??..

regarding my ex i dont think he heard any of the sexual content rumors about me but he knew about my exes and almost all of  the stories related to them as i used to share with him every thing apart from sexual content.

He was cool about everything about my ex ( thats  what he showed me ) and never show me jealousy but once when i brought the marraige topic than  he asked me if i think this relationship work ??  Than he told me that even when he doesn’t show any reaction when i talk to my guys friends doesn’t meant he doesn’t care ( he meant to say he doesn’t like my contact with( in clear words)male gender .etc

but even if he was angry ,why dint he even come to talk about things ,and let me go .

Dear Anita ,

i dint get your 3rd point .

Ya he isnt in competition and he is really nice and loving . And very much honest as i saw him .but the only thing which worries him is that he will not take any stand .

When last time i talked to him about him he said that just give him a chance he ll try to convince him . Just don’t leave him without trying him .

Because i said him

that i feel like he doesn’t love me . He said he is sincere with me and just try him how he can prove his sincerity to me  .he offered me the passwords of account and said me if u want he can tell his siblings about us . But atleast give him chance.

I dont knw anita what to do . He feels so perfect and kind with me and always straight forward with me .

Do u think not continuing with him will be a good idea because i m already hurting by thinking about him that what if after an year or two he wont go against his family .

I m a girl i  have same caste issues Too .but i have gave up after knowing his opinion seriously.

Dear Anita ,

yeah i will post here . If next time if i meet a guy.

I just call this person and told him that i dont want to continue the relationship with him .

Because of his that attitude that night and because i m not in that position to have a relationship as i m still recovering from the break up .

And he replied he is sorry for that night and said me sorry alot of time and then he dint force me . He said he wont force me to have a relationship if i dont want to .

And i was quite impressed that how smoothly i broke up and he accepted my decision of breaking up .

After hanging up the phone i m now thinking if he is this much cool about my opinion of having or not having a relationship . Then why was he so insisting and forcing me for Sex ? Just for Once Sex ( for sake of him only for Once Sex)“.

i talked to him after 3 days of that night . I was just ignoring his most of texts .

Dear anita ,

i got a very nice picture of my situation and that person after thinking about the question u asked..

well at first he said he will tell his friends because he is living with them in one apartment and if he visits me for 2-3 days they will doubt thys its better to tell them .

It was the first day when i accepted his proposal he talked about staying with me . Then i asked him :Do you wanna Stay with me ?

Then he said whenever he comes to me .

His cousins ar (17-18) yrs old guys .

Then after 2-3 days i asked him what are your future plan about us . He said he ll find a house in my city and we will shift there .  I asked u want to shift with me in same house without marrying ?

He said : whatever u want if u want to marry thn shift thn we will do like this .

Then i asked after sometime : when are you telling your family ?

First he said he ll come to me and talk face to face about it . I responded on this : Oh thats correct .u can talk about romance and kissing and hugging on call but not on this … ( i felt strange thus i replied in such a way)

thn he said whenever u say he ll tell his family .

and he has a relative who is almost 38-40 yrs old here . He said he ll tell him first etc .

hallo everybody .

i Need some advise here …

i finally got rid of my bf who was emotionally ,verbally abusive .i went to Police Station for reporting against him because of his violent and Stalking .but he promised me that he wont do such Thing again  thus i dint file a Report against him and blocked him and returned his all belongings .. i finally broke up with him on 28 th feb and now its almost 2 -3 weeks ,

meanwhile one of his friend contacted me because he used to like me ( i just met him 1-2) and later he came to know ´that i am his friend gf . so he dint approached me .but as my bf told him that we broke up and asked him to talk to me . he contacted me as a friend

as i was very sad after being blackmailed  and abused , i started talk to him  just before two weeks..he showed interest and i refused to have anything  right away as i knew my breakup was fresh and he is my ex  friend thus it wont be a good idea..

but as we talked on call he dint care if i was his friend ex gf and that  we were in living relationship.. he just liked me and wanted to spend life with me .

so after a week of my  breakup i accepted his proposal of having a relatonship but i was really nt connected with this Person.

then he wanted to  meet me and wanted to stay night at my place so first i denied because i wasnt ready for this as i was coming from a horrible horrible breakup and a living relationship but  after a Long consideration i agreed..

so he asked me that if i kiss him or hug him whwn he come to meet me ? …i became very uncomfortable as he started asking such Things  and even i became sad because i dint really moved on from  my last relationship .

he came before 2 days and he was very touchy .in bus he kept his head on my shoulder or trying to kiss me again and again when he reach at my place he again wanted to kiss me and hug me again and again and i wasnt comfortable at all ..two hours passed he said me ” what are you doing?” i askd him”what em i doing ?”( actually i wasnt letting him doing much romance and i was saying him  i am not comfortable to do ,and i asked him to talk to me despite of touching me again and again.)i really wanted to talk to him and get comfortable and free first ..

he asked : what are you doing ? for what i came here ?? u should know what should we be doing now after 2 hours …

me: for what u came here ? (i was a bit angry and shocked)  what should we be doing right now ,tell me ?? did u come here to have sex??  did u?

he: ya why not .. we are in relationship thn why shouldnt we …

me: how could u think that i called u for sex?  i dont want to have rght now ..and i just cant …( it was our first Meeting and we were frm last one week in relationship)

he started  insisting me and asked me than why did i have Sex with  my ex (his friend )…

he continued to insist me and asking me for his sake just for once , just for once Sex  …

i denied every single time and i said u cant force me to do something which i dont want ..

after sometime he took his jacket and said me that he is leaving and i can sleep ( as i was sleepless too and wanted to sleep ) ..

i was fine with that . then he asked me to come out side i went there he was showing a bit attitude as he was angry at me ..

at that Point i really wanted him to go and never contact me again but i couldnt ask him to get out …

then he came wd me at my place and said alright we wont have sex but apart from it we will do everything and i refused again …he was again unhappy .. from this time i started weeping because i started missing my ex alot … first time in last 3 weeks i started weeping and i kept weeping time to time infront of him..

well whole night went like this after 2 hours i slept …and really ,i was Abit  attracted to him and at that Moment i completly lost interst in him …i dont like him  now …

when i woke up i waned him to go.bt i spent some hours with this Person  and said him goodbye at Train Station …. i was weeping alot whole day with him because i was missing my ex …those memories and Flashbacks were coming time to time ..

now i m just confsed this Person said me he really likes me and love me and planning to marry me but i feel like all he want from me is only Sex??  or am i in emotionally unstable right now ?? or am i only judging him ??

can someone give me a clearer Picture of this whole Situation because i cant really think straight that whats really going on .?

help me please i m really messed up ..

right now  i m nt talking or replying this Person much as i m no more intersted after that night …