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EricaParticipantGigi,
I was lying in bed last night, thinking, “I should have suggested a good therapist.” That’s a step that cab be SO scary, and can take some work/time to find someone you connect with, but having a safe space and someone trained to help you is invaluable. I concur with Anita! Just stating things aloud can give some real insights and relieve a burden… although then the real work begins once the box is open.
Also, I wouldn’t want to suggest that your focus should be on restricting more foods from your diet — I was just concerned that perhaps the regime you are trying to follow right now may be exasperating your feelings of anxiety. People say all kinds of things about diets, but the truth is, everyone’s body is different and our bodies feel different every day! So if you can work on feeling well, every day, and eat what really makes you feel good — which is (usually) not the same as what emotionally satiates you in the moment — than I think you will start to see some momentum. Yep, Anita is right, labeling foods as “bad” or “forbidden” just sets a person up to feel disappointed.
And be gentle with yourself! Would you treat your best friend, or your sister, with the strictness and expectations that you bring to yourself? Hells no! You would give them a big fhug and say, “you are awesome, and beautiful, and I love you.” Practice saying that to yourself, and mean it. 🙂
*Hugs* -Prickly
EricaParticipantWow, I wish I could reach across the inter-webs and give you a hug.
One thing that jumps to mind is, what kind of digestive disorders do you have? I ask in part because I went for several years with an un-diagnosed but severe wheat intolerance and one of the symptoms I exhibit is extreme anxiety after consuming wheat products (like, one beer = panic attack). So just in glancing over your post, I wondered if perhaps there is something else going on that is contributing to your feelings, especially if you are on a very starchy diet. Often starches make us crave more starches, so maybe that particular diet just isn’t right for your body, right now. Another thing I’ve noted is that oral contraceptives tend to make me crave fat- and carbohydrate-rich foods — and they give me awful mood swings!
This is probably going to sound like no help at all, but practicing loving your body as it is, instead of focusing on all the things you want to change about it, is truly the “solution.” Remind yourself that you are a totally unique person and how remarkable that miracle is! (As Dr. Seuss wrote, “There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”) I’ve also struggled with trying to control my food intake, throughout my life, and I found that when I put my focus on loving and treating my body as best I can, then I tend make the “right” choices from that place of love.
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