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    Prabha
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    Hi sufi,

    It is true that books may or may not impact everyone as view differs..
    but there are few books which has really helped me, improved my life & made a difference.

    1. “FEELING GOOD – The NEW MOOD THERAPY” – David D.Burns, M.D
    This book which i read recently blew my mind.. this is an old book related to cognitive therapy. the chapter involves step by step procedure to untie all the knots of our self sabotaging beliefs. it covers all the areas right from handling criticism, anger, depression n addictions such as approval, love addictions. Every chapter involves self-assessment, self-help tools. Try it.. i hope it may help you.

    If religion is not an issue u can try Christianity books dealing with day to day problems which really benefited me-
    Joel osteen’s – ” Everyday is a Friday”,
    The Song of a satisfied soul,
    You can heal your life – Louise Hay.

    U hav already won when u hav decided to change the things n take a step towards it. sooner or later but definitely you will become what you want to be. 🙂 god bless u.

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 9 months ago by Prabha.
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    Prabha
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    Hello Cynthia 🙂

    I can understand you must be going furious listening to general statements on conflicting issues, especially when it seems to be applicable to you as well.
    But no two person can be equal in their views about everything. everyone of us have our own way of thinking due to our experiences.
    I remember one such issues with my best friend over a particular city and its people. i used to argue a lot,
    but once she could talk politely she told me her experience with that particular city and its people. Only then i understood that her views had cum from there as she had only bad experiences as far as she was there, and i can only wait for her to have good experiences in future to agree with me. i neither pushed her to believe me nor changed my views for her.

    BUT if it is something which really means to u or your self respect or attached to your basic values you HAVE to atleast let him know you are
    not feeling comfortable about it. It is better to politely convey your discomfort in the beginning itself than overlook it until it becomes too late.
    who knows may be he had no clue it is hurtung you personally! or maybe you can understand why he is behaving so.
    Sometimes words through phone and chats may be misinterpreted, Talk to him about this when u MEET him face to face,
    as u said that is when you both are amicable to each other.
    ASK politely what makes him feel so, politely so that he can hear your what you feel and you can hear his side. I know, I very well know it is hard not to get angry when basic things need to be explained which should be understandable 🙂 but i have learnt that at least for the sake of your relationship
    and atleast to give both of you a chance to let your feelings known to the other person, patience is important atleast to start with.

    But you should let him know that your views differ in such important issues, IF you are sure he will happily let you follow your mind while he follows his, then
    relax, let him have his own views and talk abt his views on it, dont take it personally (infact empathise for him or be mentally elsewhere n keep smiling until he finishes :P).. but if you want your partner to walk in your way then dear friend remember that we dont have control over other’s views,
    only with patience & time it MAY or Maynot happen.please let him know the same if he thinks he can change you later (again as
    politely as u can say).

    You have to decide whether this problem is really vital for you & worth fighting or the relationship is worth to accept the differences and stil draw a healthy space.

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