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February 14, 2017 at 8:34 am #127557
Pauline PeoplesParticipantSee post forgot to press reply x
February 14, 2017 at 8:32 am #127555Pauline PeoplesParticipantHi Poppy,
When I said my marriage is nothing to Do with his cousin is when I thought of sending him the recorded phone call between myself and my husband and i decided not too because it was between us too.
I spoke to my husband when leaving work and I told him to stay at his and stay out and he said why didn’t I want to see him? It costs £30 for a taxi and then he mentioned about getting the train and the station is 10 mins away from mine and I would have picked him up and let me know if he decides to stay out.
I have no problem with him Enjoying himself.When I go out with my friends he is usual with me or when I do have plans I cancel them like the other week I had a MBE party to go too but he wanted date night on the same night. And too me he comes first and I contacted my friend to let her know I wouldn’t be coming.
A few times in the past when my husband goes out and drinks fights happen that was my concern. That’s why I contacted his mum as she is aware of this.
My past I’ve worked hard on my confidence and my self esteem that’s why I’m in a hard place because for once I’m standing up for myself asking for respect and apparently that’s wrong.
I had a counsellor for my PTSD and I’ve been fine since completing treatment with visulasions and such. My confidence grows everyday I started a new course last week so go into a nursing roles and further myself.I’d love to be able to talk to my husband hes in ignor mode so I make it worse if I contact him. I wait till he contacts me once he’s had his time….
February 14, 2017 at 8:15 am #127549Pauline PeoplesParticipantThank you for replying Anita.
We got married in July last year. Once we returned from our honeymoon he went to Bristol to work for four months.
At the start of Jan he promised we would talk more and he wouldn’t use the silent treatment because it upsets me so much and we would spend more time together.
His cousins never liked me, him and my husband were close growing up and a few times my husband has sent messages to him talking about me in the past. I’ve tried to be a friend to him, he went through an awful breakup and I did the whole what girls say to their girl friends that you can do better and she had an awful fashion sense and as I was trying to be a friend he was texting his ex and she was threatening me and my partner did nothing.
It just got me when he is having ago at me when I haven’t done anything wrong apart from try to get my husband to communicate with me. And he’s telling me that he hasn’t seen him for two weeks…and I’m thinking to myself he’s my husband I should be seeing him everyday and I see him twice a week at the most! I was raging and thinking to myself this isn’t normal!
I think rather than my husband telling them the truth that he told me he was leaving early to sleep at mine he decided to say I was nagging him for going out with the lads but with the recorded calls and texts that proves that wasn’t the case. He defends what he said even though that doesn’t match the evidence. I’m so self critical of myself and I hate confrontation he knows I will back down and apologise which I have. But when listening to the calls and checking through my texts checking that he did msg me saying he was getting a taxi soon…I haven’t done anything wrong.
Now after him saying he doesn’t know if he loves me…is he saying he doesn’t love me anymore, a game of manipulation in itself or just trying to hurt me more than ever.
I’m so crushed I love him with my entire heart and soul he is my absolute world and I would say from my point the marriage wasn’t a mistake but I think he clearly now does and hes now thinking how far can I push her to finally walk away…
I’m just assuming what he is thinking he won’t talk to me so I have no idea.
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