My first ex is a sociopath as well. I lived with him for 10 years. It was 10 years of living in a vortex, where all is controlled by someone that has no empathy, no compassion, and I find no conscience at all. He is the father of my oldest son who is now 21 years. When my son was 4 years old, I escaped him to save my life, with him chasing me on the street terrorizing me. My son was asleep at the time. I went to call the police and told them what was going on. They did not believe me, and told me that my son was in a secure environment, and I would have to go to court. I was appalled, my ex is a cocaine addict as well and violent, but they said that they had no proof. I had in the past put charges against him but he talked me out of it, being all sweet and all. If only I would have known that it would bite me later on. I have lost custody of my son and have had no contact with him since he was 14 years old. I have gone to court for 10 years trying to gain custody of him, but his father alienated him against me, so he told me he wants to be with his father. After 15 years of separation on the eve of my sons’ 21 birthday I wrote on my wall that I missed him and wished to see him one day. Basically just a call to the universe, and he responded. He left me 45 comments and 15 messaged all of them very nasty with name calling and threats as well on me and my youngest son. I desperately wanted to do something about it, so I called my lawyer, and she advised me to let it go there was not really anything I could do, because it would only give him more fuel, and torment for me. So I blocked him but he is still mocking me by saying he is with his son and I could drop dead and he would be happy. I have learned to live with the heartache and go forward by taking a small positive step forward every day, but the emotional scars remain. I am now at peace with myself and much stronger woman. But I agree with Helen, people with a good heart are their perfect victims. They will mirror everything that you want, and once they have you they will project to others everything they hate about themselves. I wish you the best of luck, and yes you have to let go for your own sanity.