Anita,

Thank you so much. I agree that he may be using his “hopelessness” to protect himself from being hurt. I think it would be incredibly revealing to find out the source.

Anita,

He went into some pretty graphic detail about being with another women. It was definitely word vomit, but I was shocked he’d share something so intimate that happened with another person. Granted, it was late at night and he was a bit tipsy. . . While that’s not an excuse, I think that lead to his over-sharing. I want him to be honest and open, but it was a bit much for me.

To answer your question about past mistakes, he hasn’t gone into detail.  What he shared with me is that he ends up saying something stupid or doing something stupid and hurting the ones he loves. He’s sees himself as insensitive and hopeless. He knows he’s going to make a mistake like this again and is afraid that’s going to drive me away.

For me, what he said is not unforgivable. I told him that at the time but he was so disgusted with what he had done he was up all night. He said what’s bothering him isn’t specifically related to what he said to me, but his fear that it will happen again and that his insensitivity will ruin this relationship.

Thanks for listening 🙂