Our children are 18, 16, 14, and 11…we have tried counseling and two out of the three that we saw told me to get away from him. He had an affair from 2013 to 2015 and fell in love with her. He asked her to marry him and when she said “No” because she is happy with her husband he came back home. I hoped that we would work out our relationship and get over that hurdle but he is changed. He does not like it is obvious in the abrasive way he treats me and the kids see it. My 16 year old has taken to subtly encouraging her father to be kinder to me and I know it’s because she has witnessed his chilly interactions with me. I know I have set a bad example for them…I would never want our kids to live like my husband and I are living.

I make little income…I would leave tomorrow if I could figure out how to support myself and the kids. Is it hard to get spousal and child support while separated before a divorce agreement is settled?