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PearlParticipantHello peaceful warriors ….your conversation is very interesting 🙂 🙂 I am wondering what I usually do in this kind of situation- I use to give extreme reactions and become cynical but with time and more experiences I realized sometimes we judge too quickly and assume too much , now I don’t jump on any opinions quickly and I take time to get to know that person – its an investment I know but it’s better to be open to experiences and real people in life rather than avoiding doing things which we are not good at – like socializing with real people for example – it’s a skill and it comes with time!
As far as emotional truth goes, you either have to be 100% authentic with you own self which takes a lot of efforts and honesty in order to be that intuitive – I usually go with an open mind and let people revel who they are and it’s not very hard to see in certain short time span! Hope this helps 🙂 Not to be friends with someone is different than avoiding things we are not good at 🙂 so we need to be honest with ourselves and take it from there! Otherwise everyone has a freedom to be happy and not to be friends with someone they don’t like 🙂
PearlParticipantHello nacm86, I am happy to hear about your self exploration journey – I have been in the same situation for last couple of years and I had 2 long term serious relationships where I realized I was attracting the same type of guys and my relationship patterns were also similar – they both lasted for about 2 years or more and finally I was shaken from a dream state. I had to think about what I was doing and what I was looking for 🙂
In my experience, before we start looking for a soulmate – its important to connect with your own soul. We have to love and nurture ourselves first and become fearless and content and strong that we are good enough for ourselves 🙂 Once you reach to that level where you are thriving in your life – you are smiling from your lungs – right kind of people will start coming into your life – once you raise the vibrations of your own life state ( I am sure you understand what I mean! since you are a spiritual person too!!) It has helped me a lot and now I see, how much I have transformed and how much my relationships have changed! In my experience, when we don’t look for it – that’s when it shows up and I took myself on dates plenty of times in last 6 months – for a movie and for dinners or even for beach walks 🙂 ! I know it sounds crazy but that’s when you know how you want to be treated in your relationships! I didn’t date ME 🙂 and now all I attract is good people who also want to contribute and uplift me 🙂 Before it wasn’t there cause I guess my belief was wrong somewhere that I have to give a lot of love or prove certain things in certain ways in a relationship to receive love from the other person….we all know it but the root cause might be something different – check your vibration and check where your relationship with yourself is and take it from there!
Hope this helps 🙂
PearlParticipantHey there!! I have heard something similar in the past 🙂 All I can say is – it hurts only if you love him more than yourself 🙂 🙂 You love yourself more than the need of the relationship or to keep him into your life! I have been there before, believe me – once you learn the lesson and empower yourself 🙂 you will attract only the best of people in your life 🙂 so take it from there and I would also suggest start doing something which you really enjoy doing! Dancing or painting 🙂 get back on track and finally be professional at work! You are there to make a career and tell yourself you deserve the best! Next time, don’t give too much 🙂 and don’t lose yourself in a relationship – this is what I learnt from my relationships that didn’t work! Hope this helps!!take care
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