I haven’t got very good advice but I am going through a very similar situation so please know that you are not alone. I am at work and just crying at my desk some days 🙁 I miss and still love her so much it hurts but what makes it worse is that she is now pregnant with another mans baby and we have only been split up for 4 months. I feel physically sick constantly and just on the edge of a breakdown… so please know that there are many people experiencing the same pain… all we can do is try our hardest to carry on and hope that in time things will get better. I think it’s just unfortunately all we can do is be patient and wait until the grieving gets easier to manage…

Good luck and I hope that your pain subsides as soon as it possibly can…

Hi John,

I’ve been through similar experiences and what I can say I learnt is what so many other places and people say. Give her the space. I had a similar situation and I was so distraught by it all that I clung on for dear life and I made mistake after mistake of trying to win her back. Then when I started to just concentrate on myself and gave her the space, things changed quite quickly and she was the one messaging me saying she missed me and we ended up giving it another go. But please don’t do what I initially did and throw all your dignity away, I was practically begging and it was not a good look.

It’s so easy to allow grief and depression to take over in this situation when you feel someone you love no longer feels the same. But if you truly want her back then you need to give her that space and really work hard on seeing friends, having a good time and focusing on your health and fitness. Just play it cool and try and get to a place of confidence and hopefully she’ll notice that change.

Good luck with everything and don’t let feeling down ruin it for you!

Paul