I’m new to Tiny Buddha, but I can speak from an aquarian’s point of view. I believe there are 3 lives in every relationship,(my life, her life, and our life together). This has caused some misunderstandings in my past. When I’m away from my wife, whether at work or club function, etc. I am in my life, what she is doing in her life is not my concern nor do I feel like what I’m doing away is of hers. Of course, if I was to do something that did directly affect her, it would fall back under our life together. But, when we are together and the kids are in bed, then our time together becomes all inclusive at that moment. I can not speak directly for your boyfriend, but for me, I am very much a typical aquarian male. Focused mainly on the exact moment of where I am at and what is ahead. My wife use to ge to feeling the same. But as we talked and I became willing to acknowledge how she felt. We find ways to work through. Our 9th anniversary is in just under two weeks.
“Change begins with Hope”
PaulDavid