Dear BohemianZen,
Firstly , very sorry for getting back to you so late!
Thanks a lot for the video.! The guy in it seems to have researched a lot on this topic to gain an indepth understanding of such people. Okay maybe my so-called paternal grandfather ( i would prefer calling him loser…still) has some problem with himself..fine but he is a failure as a family member. But after hearing this guy, now i know that I have to maybe try and change my perspective..maybe inside he is suffering..not sure about that..cant really imagine him suffering..oh! he has such an irritating grin..
anyways, i am not gonna let that intimidate me. Ihave a life to live…with my mom and my sister..and all my loved ones..who love me and whom i love.. Thanks for making me realize that!

Yours truly,
Parth

Hey will!
Thanks for a quick and a great reply. Yup I am eighteen. Thanks a lot for your advice. I will definitely try following it, though to be honest o think it will take some time for me to become habitual to it. Yes man, I get it..I don’t want my misery to enter this works..as if there’s not enough already.! :p its just that maybe some days I just have that urge to take revenge..maybe that’s what’s making me bitter.
BTW..by ur tone..u sound like a young chap to me! And of course a very wise one

Thanks again!
Cheers to life

Fellow traveler,
Parth

Matt,
He lives with his wife but his two sons live abroad . So yes maybe you are right when you say he’s lonely and he wants to be close to us. But don’t you think this is a very ineffective way of doing so? I’ve never told him about how his presence affects my family but in all honesty i think he should’ve realised it seeing our lack of interest in having a conversation him i.e about his poky questions. Thats the problem.. i think he does this on purpose.

Matt Wow!! Your words are so inspiring!! 😀 Right now i was quite agitated about this but after reading what you have written, i could actually feel myself calming down.. its such a wonderful feeling really!! 😀 I don’t think there is any better example than the one you just gave( about the cat). Wow! I never really thought it that way..

MAtt, I apologise if I’m extending this conversation way too long.. but if i try making him feel welcome, i’m afraid he would take advantage of it and become more of an intruder. We all show him a LOT of respect, we talk to him with great care, i even run down to him if i see him at the other end of the road.. but only to be answering his poky ques.

But Matt I couldn’t agree more with you.. I am acting like a victim.. you are right! Thanks for showing me the light!!
Thanks a ton!!!! 🙂 I am incredibly grateful.

May God bless us all

With the greatest regards,
Parth