Dear Tee,

Your hypothetical story is possible, but I find it very difficult to believe that level of extremity.

“How did he push you towards the breakup? You were breaking up all the time anyway.” I am referring to the times when he told B that I could be cheating without her knowing and the time when he fed her with more false information, which made her believe that we were breaking up cause I was cheating instead of breaking up over her cheating.

“If he waited for you to stop caring completely, he could be waiting a lifetime” Hell no, he knows that I was planning on blocking her entirely once I got my money.

“At this point you are her creditor, not her boyfriend. It could be a strictly business relationship. But it’s much more than business, at least to you…” Obviously I haven’t been allowed to move on yet cause she keeps calling me once in a while and tells me stuff like to take her to the atm, and I ask her if she would give me my money if I take her there and she says it depends on how much she has on her acc, so I walk her to the atm in the hopes of getting the money, only to find she barely has money. Every time she calls me, I take the call in the hopes of getting my money and she is leading me in circles with that trick.

“What wedge did he hammer between you and B? How is he responsible for your breakup?” Like I stated earlier, he told B that I could be cheating and another time he told her that I was interested in other girls and checking them out when he knows that is absolute bs, and stuff like that convinced B that the breakup was caused by my cheating instead of her cheating.

“Because she might be lying about half of it…” Even with the screenshots? The texts sound exactly like how he would behave.

“Besides, you too trust her rather than him, even if you’ve known her and her antics for almost 2 years.” No, I trust neither of them, but this kind of behavior was to be expected from him. He even broke up with his long distance gf cause he wanted to be sexually satisfied by other women instead of waiting for the girl who actually loved him.

“Well, he might… but you can ask him about this whole thing. Unless you want to keep accusing him without knowing the full story.” I asked another guy friend for his opinion and he said not to confront him cause it might ruin the friendship and it’s best to just keep my guard up around him.

” And since you’re not going to take the case to the court, you might as well start accepting the possibility that she’ll never return your money.” So even if I play it safe, I wont get my money?

“Your conversations don’t really have to end in a fight – if you learn how to stop being triggered by a narcissist. If you educate yourself. If you decide to stop allowing her to abuse you.” Yes I am working on that now. Teaching myself acceptance.

“It seems you still want to enable her.” I dont want to enable her, but it feels like i need to in order to get my money. Yk, to deal with a narcissist u gotta feed their ego until they are satisfied enough to stop bothering you.

Yeah I am working on learning how to deal with a narcissist. Hope it works.

Paradoxy

Dear Tee,

“Your guy friend told you this? Or he said it to her in their conversation (of which she sent you the screenshots)?” He said it to her.

“Their conversation happened on June 4, almost 3 months after you split up. So you can’t blame him.” Yes, but his behavior shows that maybe he was interested in her from the beginning. Maybe that is why he did the stuff he did the previous times we fought. He may have made his move now but saying that he would have wanted to get to know her if I didn’t exist means he was interested in her even while I was dating her.

“If I were you, I would speak with him. I wouldn’t respect the narcissist’s plea for secrecy, because it damages the victims. And now both of you (you and your guy friend) are her victims.” Um how is he a victim? He made the move first. He messaged her first. She just didn’t want me telling him that she told me the truth, especially after he told her not to tell me.

“So she told him off? Refused his advances? (at least in the part of the conversation that she you let you see)?” Yes, the screenshots were in continuation so less manipulation. Though the photoshopping could be a possibility, I dont have any means of confirming it.

“Well at least she paid you once. But the delay tactics is in place, as I thought.” Well I did see her bank statement and she only has around 60$ so I wouldn’t push it away as a tactic. Besides the amount she owe is too large for me to ignore, I need the money to get a new laptop for school purposes.

“Dear Paradoxy – you’re expecting respect and understanding from a narcissist? Unfortunately, that’s something you’ll never get…” I know I might never get it, but I still wanted to try. Just maybe. Just maybe she might stop being the way she is, even if it is 0.00001%.

“He is not the main person to be angry at… “ Still had the audacity to do the things he did. At least show me some respect instead of trying to do things behind my back. Now I can’t trust his ass with anything. I can’t trust him if I were to fall in love again. I can’t trust him to have my back.

Paradoxy

Dear Tee,

“Oh wow! A faithful friend he is… And how did you find out? From B?” 
Got screenshots of their conversation on Instagram, but honestly don’t know who to trust anymore. The amount of anger that I have boiling inside me makes me want to break him, but I made a promise to his mother to keep him safe. So now I have to walk around with more anger and hate in my heart, while pretending to be good friends with him.

Already called B out for being a narcissist a while back, but that argument didn’t go anywhere. She is just too stubborn. I am here trying my best to stay calm and understanding and she just pushes all the wrong buttons. And then I burst when I couldn’t handle her disrespect and I started being verbal abusive to her when she crossed the line with her disrespect. I tolerate insults toward me but don’t expect me to stay calm if she starts insulting my parents, and I fell right into her trap: she now says I am the one who didn’t change and that she was the one who had to put up with my verbal abuse.

“Perhaps you want to peak into one of those videos that I mentioned above. I think you’d recognize B very easily…” Even if I watched those videos and identified B as a narcissist, I still have to put up with her until I get my money back. I have to endure whatever she throws at me, because all of this could be an act to pressure me into just cutting ties with her entirely, which would mean I won’t get my money back.

Dear Tee,

“So anyway, your mother was never too caring or empathic, quite the contrary, but now she is claiming that she was. Which is gaslighting.” The thing is that she was caring regarding the physical aspect. She noticed when I was tired, she noticed when I was sleep deprived, she saw how weak I looked from days I went without eating to focus on studying while I was in college, but she never saw my emotional and mental health deteriorating. I don’t blame her though but the audacity to say that she noticed whenever I was unwell is just pissing me off. She is not gaslighting because she did care for me regarding the physical aspect but failed in the emotional and mental aspect.

“Also, your father taught you that when you have an issue, to suck it up and be a man. So he wasn’t really welcoming vulnerability.” My father also sucks up his own problems. He has all kinds of body pains: back pain, neck pain, leg pain etc. But he never actively complained about his pain. He will still wake up at 5 am and get ready and go to work out under the hot sun until 5-8pm. So compared to that, I would sound weak and pathetic compared to how much he is enduring for the entire family. So basically, in their eyes, nothing of my issues are worth me complaining about.

“You were shaped to be that way… by your parents’ conditioning. I hope you can start seeing that?” Yes I see that but I also realized that my parents are right about me being an idiot. For example, yesterday the battery for the car ran out of charge, so I had to jumpstart the car by connecting the battery to another car battery. I got the battery and managed to jumpstart the car, and then I packed up everything, but my dumbass self turned off the car’s engine. So I had to get the equipment again and jumpstart the vehicle again. This just shows how careless I was, and I had to just stand there and take it when my father called me absent-minded and etc. So technically my parents were right about me being an idiot. So now what? Can’t really say that my parents are wrong about me now….

Paradoxy

Dear Tee,

“That’s true, but you said you lost money because the guy wasn’t really doing his job but went partying (the guy we hired chose to party instead of focusing on the trading). So that doesn’t belong to the normal risk of trading. How do you even know he was partying instead of watching what’s going on on the markets?” We can’t actually point out that he was partying and stuff instead of focusing on trading since we don’t know if the failed trading correlates with the partying. What we do know is that it was his birthday month and he had been posting pictures of himself at various parties and with different women throughout the entire month, but only B knows the details. But like I said, we can’t call him out for partying.

“Has that brought any success? Have you earned anything?” Nope, the second guy just simply scammed us entirely. But since both of these guys were introduced to me by B, it would be reasonable for me to assume that she has poor evaluation skills, since she trusted them too easily. But besides that, she has promised to return the money that I lost in the investment, not sure if I can trust it but we will see.

“You still managed to fall for the kind of girl he was warning you about.” I fell for her because I didn’t want to be controlled by my parents’ stereotypes about women and I didn’t want to fall under their indoctrination. I believed that B was the exception and believed that she would prove my parents wrong. But obviously I learnt my lesson.

“So either you need more education and basically following your father’s instructions about whom to marry (light skinned girl, preferably from your religious/ethnic community). Or you need something else?” Not sure, I really don’t want to follow my parents’ instructions. I don’t want arranged marriage but at the rate things are going, I am starting to think arranged marriage might be the safest option. But I really don’t want that. I don’t want a loveless marriage. I don’t want a relationship where we are loving each other for the sake of the children and our parents. I don’t want the person to love me because they have to. I want them to want to love me. But at the same time, it considerably reduces the chances of breaking up/divorce. All I can do is trust in God and hope he has a plan for me.

My father was not feeling well yesterday, and I didn’t ask him if he was ok cause I thought it was the usual tiredness from his work since he is an engineer, besides me caring for him might actually end up biting me back in the form of more criticism or something. My mom was infuriated by me “not caring” and started lecturing me that I should be more caring and stuff and how she always cared about me whenever I looked upset. BULLSHIT. Forgive my language but she probably asked once or twice or thrice at most, and that too after I started Med. Nobody cared during all those years that I suffered. Nobody noticed the pain I was going through when I found out about my ex cheating on me, and now she tries to say she always noticed whenever I was unhappy and that she cared about how I felt? I felt the urge to blurt out these thoughts to her but I changed my mind cause if I open my mouth once, they will force me to open up about my issues and then go right back to criticizing me and etc. It is much easier for me to just say ok and move on. But it is the audacity that pisses me off.

I really think that I am an idiot ngl, cause I think I am starting to have an infatuation for the girl that inspired me to make the song, the song that my ex was pissed about and accused me of cheating on her. But because I am aware of how stupid it is, I don’t think I will pursue it. Maybe the infatuation is a result of my heart searching for a rebound cause of the breakup. My ex had accused me of detaching from her after I found out what happened in January. I had denied it when I was having the argument with her cause I knew that I really wanted to find a way to love her again despite the betrayal but it was difficult cause I was disgusted by what B did, but now that I know that I am infatuated with the girl that inspired the song, I am starting to think that maybe I started detaching subconsciously after I found out about her cheating. At any rate, I don’t plan to do anything regarding the infatuation cause I know it is probably my own heart manipulating me, but do you think I should act on it if the infatuation lasts for a year or two? Does it mean the infatuation is based on real feelings and not my own manipulation?

Maybe I didn’t learn my lesson after all….. Why are emotions and hormones so hard to control? Pain in my ass I swear.

Paradoxy

Dear Tee,

“I needed to take a break from this thread and trying to convince you of things (about B) that are so obvious to me, and I believe to any outside observer, but not to you unfortunately.” Yes, I understand. I just don’t like the idea of making claims without proper evidence even if the reasoning is valid.

“It saddens me that after more than 150 posts that we’ve exchanged, and you knowing that she was lying to you, hiding important things from you, and falsely accusing you – you still choose to trust her word.” I am not choosing to trust her word, I am just giving her the benefit of doubt in certain things that does not have a lot of evidence. It doesn’t affect my decision to never return to her.

“If she felt crucified, it means she felt harshly judged and condemned for her actions. And this means she wasn’t fine at all with doing what you told her to do, i.e. with your expectations and limitations. On the contrary, she felt crucified by them.” Ok fine, I can’t argue with that. She never actively expressed it directly to me so it never came across to me.

“And you will enter the next relationship with the same false belief that women are dumb and need to be educated – which won’t lead to happiness either.” I understand the point you are trying to make, but I definitely am not under the belief that women are dumb and need to be educated. Maybe a little dramatic and a pain in my bottom rn but not dumb. I just thought B was dumb cause of the lack of guidance she had received as well as how her decisions lacked common sense. But I understand your point. Thank you for your patience and understanding.

Paradoxy

Dear Tee,

“So B is someone who likes to party, and those parties are the kind where girls (including B) dance practically naked, in a bikini/thongs, while men are staring at them and lusting after them.” You are partially correct. B does like to party, but these parties are not always the kind where girls dance practically naked. Some girls wear revealing outfits though, but most of them don’t. Most of them just wear outfits that are “sexy” even without revealing much skin, but it highlights certain parts of their body, but knowing how filthy men are, they are bound to look. But there are parties where girls wear very revealing outfits. Look up the Jamaican carnival. It is a parade where the women wear extremely revealing outfits and men go for the parade just to stare at women. And then there will be a concert after the parade where the women would be dancing very sexually, entertaining the men there. B suggested that we go together for the carnival but like I told you, being in such environments makes me extremely uncomfortable and I hate it so I obviously told her that we can’t go. She appeared okay with my decision though.

“So B doesn’t mind that kind of environment, where she is looked at as a sexual object, a piece of meat. I am sure that’s how her rich old guy “friend” viewed her too.” No, she does mind. She usually goes to parties that are more formal and wear more appropriate outfits, but that is not going to stop men from being filthy assholes. And no, her rich friend doesn’t seem to view her in that manner, based on what I know about him….

“And indeed, they took a photo together by the pool at 6 am, after one of such parties. Surely, they didn’t all wake up early to go for a refreshing swim. But they stayed up all night, doing who knows what.” It is possible, but B said that there was no party the previous night, and she said that she went to the pool by herself before everyone woke up but she didn’t know her friend had also woken up. I would prefer not to assume that she was up doing all kinds of wrong things.

“Yes, she is fully clothed except when she is partying – that’s when she is practically naked.” No, she is fully clothed even at parties, but her choice of outfit is more like thin to an extent, or the skirt has a very long cut. Idk how to describe it. It is like those outfits girls would wear that have an opening to stick their leg out. Or another outfit would be a top and jeans but the top is short so you can see her stomach clearly. And most of her outfits require her to wear no bra as well. So that also annoys me.

“She is also fully clothed except when her ex is taking out her braids – that’s when she is naked, wrapped only in a towel. And yes, she lives under the same roof with her ex, so that’s when she is not fully clothed either.” No, She is clothed but her choice of clothing at home is like “booty shorts” and thin shirts with no bra. Sometimes she wears long pants though and she claims to be careful with her choice of outfits. Every time I come over to her place, I tell her to wear something more appropriate when she is outside of her room but she keeps saying that there is nobody home so she is fine. But then one day she made the same excuse and I warned her that her housemates could come back any second and she pushed off my remark like it would never happen, only for her ex to return home and she had to run back to her room to change. The issue with her ex was just a coincidence according to her, cause it was supposed to be the female housemate who was supposed to remove her braids.

“She didn’t? She didn’t prostitute herself for money? She doesn’t go to pool parties where she is dancing half-naked in front or rich old tourists? She didn’t let you finance her for an entire year? She didn’t take your laptop and doesn’t intend to return it any time soon? She didn’t convince you to invest in some shady financial schemes, and then used the little that you earned for her own expenses?” You have the wrong understanding of things. She only prostituted herself one time, and she claims to have had no choice because her aunt had set up the whole ordeal. She did go to pool parties but that was before we started dating and she didn’t dance sexually in front of men in that manner, I believe she has too much self respect to be doing those things and they were circumstances where she had control of herself and was not forced to do anything. I financed her because she had lost her job because she refused to prostitute herself, so as her bf, I felt I should help her in the time of need, and she could just pay me back when she gets a stable job, cause I never thought of us as two different people, cause I always aimed to marry her in the future so whatever I invested in her right now, would be beneficial for both of us in the future when she has a stable job and we are married. She didn’t TAKE my laptop, I offered to buy her a laptop cause she needed one for work and she couldn’t return the laptop because she needed it for work. That was before I found out about what happened in January, but because I made the promise to her, I decided to let her have the laptop and she can just pay me back later when she has earned the money. Taking the laptop back by force would be counterproductive because she would lose her job and I am not that cruel. So I have decided to sell the laptop to her and she has started paying me back in installments. And yes she convinced me to invest in trading, and it partially worked. We made a profit of 600 dollars with the initial investment, but the guy we hired chose to party instead of focusing on the trading and so he lost all the money and we went right back to square one. We entered the investment knowing the risks, so she didn’t force me into it. I needed a passive source of income because I can’t work when I have to handle the workload from med.

“You see her as some innocent angel, who is 100000 times better than other women.” Lol she may not be an innocent angel but she is definitely one of the better girls from what I have seen.

“Because in one post, you describe her sexually enticing dancing/partying habits, where she willingly goes to those parties and dances provocatively in front of men. But then in the very next post you claim that she always dressed modestly and that it’s not her fault that men lust after her.” I think you misunderstood, I was speaking about the women in general about the sexual dancing and partying. Not B specifically. B does party, but she is aware of what she is doing, based on all the recordings that I secretly watched, it would appear that she never entertained any man in the sexual manner at these parties. She did dance, but not to entertain men sexually and she is fully clothed, but these clothes highly certain parts of her body like her thigh or waist or breast etc.

“As I said, you are deluding yourself big time. You would need to decide: do you want to keep deluding yourself, or you want to finally see the truth?” How am I deluding myself? It is not like I am going to take her back. I have already received all my clothes back. I just need to get the money for my laptop and then we will be done forever.

Paradoxy

Dear Tee,

“The way you phrase it sounds like an undeniable truth. You truly believe that the majority of women (or at least the majority of women in “the modernized world”) are immoral. And then you tell me you are not a misogynist? Lol.” Lol don’t worry, I rephrased it to satisfy you.

“Speaking of the “modernized world”, do you mean the entire Western society? Are there countries that don’t belong to the modernized world, where you believe women are more moral?” Unfortunately I do not have a list, but the modernized world is in reference to countries that are heavily influenced by the crazy role models that young people listen to on social media platforms like Instagram and tiktok etc. It refers to the countries with societies where certain moral values have been twisted/manipulated and blind people follow them without realizing it is a trap.

“Does it mean you participate in such online groups, where men share their experiences of women?” I do come across men sharing their horrible experiences (as well as females sharing their experiences with men) on platforms like Instagram and Youtube etc. But other than that, my classmates and other seniors here all have stories to tell of their experiences.

“What do you mean by that? You’re saying that a woman can be a good and kind person, but be selfish when it comes to her romantic relationship. In what sense is she selfish?” Selfish as in they enter the relationship expecting to be served instead of serving each other as partners and like the stories I told you weeks ago, they have some form of ulterior motive to their relationship, like financial gain or citizenship or etc. I am not saying men are not selfish either cause I have met quite a lot of as*holes in college, like a guy living on hall looking to have a sex based relationship with women and to my utmost amazement, women are willing to entertain him and the stories the guy told me has me out of breath due to the amount of disappointment that I feel towards him and the women he enjoyed himself with. So ig I cannot really blame women for being the way they are since they probably encountered some men who treated them wrong. I think it is an endless cycle of hurting each other: when a guy gets heartbroken for the first time, he teaches himself to be numb and then he breaks a girl’s heart, and then the girl breaks another guy’s heart and the cycle continues.

“Okay, this sounds like B. She would go partying with other men (e.g. the rich Spanish guy and his friend) and then felt “crucified” by you when you objected. She was definitely selfish, had no consideration for your feelings.” True, but you have to also acknowledge that she did all those things AFTER the break up, not while in the relationship.

“Okay, this sounds like B. She would go partying with other men (e.g. the rich Spanish guy and his friend) and then felt “crucified” by you when you objected. She was definitely selfish, had no consideration for your feelings.” You are partially correct. I am an introvert and she has asked me to go to parties with her but I always disliked it cause it makes me very uncomfortable going to such places since the people at these parties are not people you actually want to be around. For example, you would see a lot of females in revealing outfits teasing men or dancing sexually (such as shaking their asses at men) and behaviors like that really make my skin crawl and I cannot be in those kinds of environments. But B respected me and did not go to any parties or anything while in relationship with me and she would always ask me first before making her decisions. And even when she went to the party after the break up, she had received permission from me to go to her girl’s night out prior to the break up, and permission to go to the resort, prior to the break up. The only thing I didn’t account for was the way she would behave at the parties. Like I said, I am fine with her going to parties and resorts and enjoying herself, but she has to know how to act at these places. I should not be seeing her wearing revealing outfits like very thin bikinis/thongs and enjoying herself while other men are staring at her enticingly, especially since she is a very beautiful/sexy woman.

“And another is when the girlfriend is behaving inappropriately, flirting with other men, and then calling her boyfriend a control freak. I guess she was falsely accusing you of being a control freak, when she in fact was behaving inappropriately with other men.” B didn’t call me a control freak or anything similar to that though. I was referring to other women that I have come across who told me about how their boyfriends are control freaks for not letting them party and etc.

“What were your expectations on B, for which she called you a bigot?” She didn’t call me a bigot though. I was talking about the other women that I have talked to. Not B specifically. B was fine with doing as she was told (idk if she held any hatred in her hurt but she never expressed any hate towards me for being “controlling”). B usually asks me about my opinion before making decisions but Ig sometimes she just never took my advice to heart and now she has to pay for it. It was the other women that live on hall near me who told me their stories. Cause I always asked the men and women here for their advice because this was my first relationship and so they have told me a lot of stories about their relationship experiences. Their stories convinced me to be less controlling by giving B the freedom to make her own decision while keeping it clear what I expected from her. Guess she didn’t fully understand cause she crossed the line I told her not to cross.

 “I agree with that. If the woman expects from the man to always pay, that’s not fair. It’s nice when the guy is a cavalier and offers to pay, but it’s not something the woman should expect and resent if the guy doesn’t offer.” Exactly, I agree with that, but I also came across a lot of stories that made me realize that the person who should be paying for the date is the one who suggested the date in the first place, which is usually the man. So then that would be fair, cause it was the man’s idea to go on the date and so he should take full responsibility for it and be willing to pay for the whole date instead of doing 50/50. But even if it was the women’s idea to have the date, I still feel like the man should show the courtesy of offering to pay, as it is a sign of respect and love towards the woman.

“So I guess you were afraid that her wearing revealing outfits will get her in trouble? And so you tried to control what she is wearing, so she would be safe (among other things)? But she saw it as you trying to control her, right?” You are partially correct. I did want to protect her from men cause I know how wicked men can be and the best course of action would be to wearing outfits that does not attract too much attention, cause it is much easier to change the outfit than change every man she comes across. But the part you got wrong is that she never saw it as controlling… or as far as I know, she never expressed that she felt like I was controlling her. But despite that, she still managed to get herself in the position of being sold off for sex to a man. So that just shows that I have no choice but to protect her at all costs since she was not wise enough to realize what she was getting herself into.

“As you have described her, she is someone who likes wearing revealing outfits, and actually likes male attention (e.g. she responded to sexting, initiated by your class mate).” Ehhhhh not exactly. She is always fully clothed (except when she is at home… where her ex also lives) but she looks very sexually appealing in every outfit she wears no matter how fully clothed she is. So at that point, I can’t do anything regarding her clothes.

“And your mistake was to try to “regulate” her instead of letting her go.” Maybe it is due to my fantasy mindset… you know like those movies where you see men changing their behavior for women and women changing their behavior for men due to their power of love and etc. I just thought that maybe B could change too if I loved her enough.

“Or if we can’t tolerate their behavior, and they are not willing to change, we should let them go.” But she looked like she was changing though. From my perspective, it looked like she was improving herself and changing her ways.

“I would also like to say that in some countries men believe that a provocatively dressed woman “asked for it”, if she gets sexually assaulted. And that’s very wrong, because regardless of how a woman is dressed, it shouldn’t be a reason to get sexually attacked or harassed.” Yea I am aware of those men. But I think they have some point though. It is wrong to say that the women deserved to be harrassed for their choice of clothing, but technically, they would have been safer if they had chosen a better set of clothing. Cause like I said, it is much easier to change your outfit than change the nature of every single person you come across. I am not saying I support those men though, so don’t get me wrong. I just think that in this cruel world, you cannot expect others to be kind towards you so the only thing you can do is to protect yourself by adapting to the situation.

“I very much disagree with the idea that women should dress modestly, so not to “entice” men. It’s the men’s responsibility to control their urges, not women’s. Because if we take this to an extreme, it can lead to forcing women to cover up head to toe, which is a severe oppression.” I completely understand. I wish the world was a much better place too but there is nothing I can do if B were to get raped or something by these cruel men that exists today. Everyone has to do what they can to protect themselves cause that is how horrible society truly is.

“So anyway, when you say you tried to “protect” her by dictating the type of clothes she was wearing, that’s not really the way to treat a woman. If you can’t accept her clothing style, you shouldn’t be with her. Simple as that. Everything else is a form of control.” Yea sure, I gave her the freedom to do whatever she wanted and she ended up being a victim to her own aunt’s manipulation and got sold off for sex. Even if I were to leave her, don’t expect me to not grieve if something bad were to happen to her.

“As far as I know, there are a lot of examples where women are paid less for exactly the same job as men. There was a survey in which they asked women and men about their job interviews, and it turned out that women typically accept the salary they are offered, whereas men tend to bargain with the employer to get a higher salary.” Well I can only speak for the experiences I have come across and in those experiences, women were being paid less due to the lower quality of work. But there could be companies and other people who take advantage of the gender inequality though.

“Who is even comparing male and female soccer teams (or any other sports)?” A lot of women are foolish enough to make stupid comparisons like that lol. There was an Australian women’s football team where the women thought they could play better than men but they ended up losing to 15 year old boys with 12-0 score. And in another case, a women’s football team decided to play against retired male soccer players to prove that women are better than men but they also ended up losing too.

“But a woman might be a good manager, or a good prime minister, or hold any leading position. Of course, provided that she has the necessary skills and talents. Excluding the woman, or paying her less, just because she is a woman – that would be inequality.” Of course. Everyone deserves equal opportunity to prove their skills. That is real feminism, cause it ensures that everyone is treated fairly, but the entitled feminists take advantage of genuine feminists who are fighting sincerely and use it to promote their own agenda and that is why female inequality still exists today. There are a lot of feminists today that think men are useless and that they can run the world without men, but they always end up forgetting that most of the things that they have used on a daily basis are things made and maintained by men.

“Well, you have some pretty strong views of women, and you did say you grew up in an old-fashioned family, so I thought I’d better check…” Lol alright fine fine, I understand your intentions but I also hope you understand mine too.

Paradoxy