Thank you anonymous03!! By abrupt, I mean she is a little short with her answers to me. I mean she could just be busy at the time, or maybe wanting to keep me at a distance, I’m not sure. I think I should not take it so personally for sure. She and I have very different personalities. She might say something that hurts my feelings for some reason, but did not mean it that way at all, it’s just that I’m super-sensitive. I had my first therapist appointment this morning and my first CoDA meeting last night 🙂 I feel like things are on the upswing as far as how I feel about myself already. Thank you so much for your insight!

@anonymous03 Thank you so much for your reply. Yes, I sound very much like your mom :/ I have done so much research on codependency this week and in fact have made an appointment with a therapist and also have my first CoDependency Anonymous meeting tonight 🙂 Making these appointments is a result of the paradigm shift that I prayed for. I haven’t talked to my daughter specifically about my change in thinking, or my appointments yet, but plan to when the timing is right.

I also have no close friends (I’m a major introvert though so have never “needed” many friends). I am married but I have depended much more on my daughter, and sometimes my son, for emotional support than my husband. I do have my own business (real estate photography) which I love and also photography and scrapbooking hobbies (for which I have been published in magazines). I adore my two grandsons (her children) and thankfully she allows me to be active in their lives.

Currently, I feel like she is, at times, a little terse and abrupt with me. I’m trying hard not to take it personally but am struggling with that. I feel like maybe that’s an attempt to hold me at a distance, do you think so?

Thank you again for your response, your insight is very valuable to me <3