You feel worthless because you probably were told you were in the relationship. If somebody controls you long enough, you believe it is because you are useless, incapable etc etc. You have probably lost your confidence due to what happened. I am in a similar situation but haven’t left yet….yet. I have a 12 year old. They get confused and don’t know what they should feel and at 8, they don’t have the ability to verbalise. They often think they are to blame so he may need some reassurance. Things were so bad due to this marriage and my childhood (narcissistic mother) that I went to Trauma Group Counselling. It was then I realised. I do not need a man to make me feel confident and happy. I need to work on ME. I need to love ME. Once I began to do that, the depression faded and my confidence got better.

And the most important thing…no matter how bad a relationship was, we all grieve them when they end. And that can go on for quite a while.

HUGS