Hello Paula…really sorry that you are in this place in your life. But hey cut yourself some slack, you made the first move and MOVED, for that my friend you need a really big pat on your back. And a reward as well just for you. Go out an dget yourself a new dress or a spa day…start investing in you.

I know it feels like you are making no headway yet you are… you have taken yourself and your kids out of the drama and to a place of serenity….did you expect it to be easy, for spending 17 years with your partner was after all 17 years…and with that is a life you both built..
Paula…try to start looking at the little things you have in your life, and begin with gratitude. The universe will align all like towards you and give you the strength to take the next steps that you need. And you dont know what those are… I speak from experience having been there myself, in a similiar situation, and know how tough it was….3 years later I have recovered and am in a state of peace and know that the only person in control of my life is ME…
I would love for you to keep your control and that can mean shutting off at times, and for now, going COLD TURKEY…believe me, it works…

Its all about you Paula…ONLY YOU CAN MAKE THE DIFFERENCE….and you have and be proud of your choices and stop feeding the energy of the past….the future awaits YOU….

Good luck dear

Hello there…

life works in weird and wonderful ways…we often want what we cant have…hence the law of attraction and that can be both the postive and negative…depandant on our emotional state at the time. I do hear that its easier said than done. So try not to resist him or your emotions for him… feel what you are feeling , accept how you feel, let it pass and then move to the next emotion. Love is the greatest healing power, so self love comes first. What Im saying is you need to start resetting your life. press the stop button, fast forward to how you would love to see your life, and write your own rule book for that picture. At this stage you have no idea what the future holds or if you have a place in each others life, yet his life seems more important than yours… You were courageous enough to share your story, and you deserve an applaud, for sharing. Now its time to start making your life more important than his and you start with your own rules for YOU….

That means NOT cutting him out, for that will attract him, what you resist persists….You must start doing one new thing for you. BE it a hairdo, or a new hobby, just get busy and keep the love and kindness about you towards him. No need for hashness or bitterness, just start doing for YOU….Actions speak louder than words, its time to stop talking and start doing…love yourself more than him for a start and see what self love can do…

Good luck