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  • November 3, 2015 at 12:41 am in reply to: An unexpected feeling #86637
    Nina Sakura
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    @pomplemous: Hard to say really if he loved the fact that he stirred irritation in me. He seemed like a broken man when i saw him. But anyway, the decision has been made and now i will stick to it.

    November 1, 2015 at 11:04 pm in reply to: An unexpected feeling #86546
    Nina Sakura
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    @elletinker700: Thanks for the reply.

    @newlife123: Yep i agree with you. Normally i dont let these things bother me. I guess I was surprised at my reactions. However, it was helpful to get the thoughts out here and accept the stirring. Thank you for taking the time to be thoughtful and give me areas to think about.

    November 1, 2015 at 11:33 am in reply to: An unexpected feeling #86520
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    Its past stuff that I was angry about – complicated history of a few years, too hard to explain in a few paragraphs. I was surprised to feel that anger when i came in contact with him. I had assumed I was over the past stuff. I guess some people bring out certain anger of the past in us though the present is completely different. However, I dont want to be consumed by my anger like before. I told him point blank that I dont want to be friends with him. My bf too knows about this situation, so it has been sorted out.

    November 1, 2015 at 1:18 am in reply to: Going through a lot of emotional pain #86498
    Nina Sakura
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    Dear arguseyed,

    Thats a lot of pressure to take on actually. I come from a culture of arranged marriages too and i understand what you mean. A friend of mine was actually rejected like 8 times (due to height, looks) and she was pretty hurt by the process. Eventually, she married her elder sister’s friend only. Though he was a bit older than her, she was comfortable with him and he accepted her for who she was.

    I think thats the problem here – you are constantly battling rejection and no one is giving you a chance to be yourself really. You’re right. The compassion is lacking here actually and I am so sorry its coming from your family. Sometimes tradition seems to go over basic understanding. No wonder you’re in pain, so much pain.

    In case you’re from India and need someone to talk to professionally on a lower rate, anonymous scale to find some support for this – do consider this site: http://www.healtheminds.com/ or for a free chat, try https://yourdost.com/ or even 7cups on days you feel super down, anxious and need virtual support. I have noticed that helps people with phone/meeting anxiety a lot.

    If you need to talk, do write to me at ninsakura23@gmail.com

    Nina

    November 1, 2015 at 12:51 am in reply to: An unexpected feeling #86497
    Nina Sakura
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    Hey anita,

    I agree and have usually broken ties with previous boyfriends because of this – it has been a challenge given that some of them were really good friends but it was important for both of us to really move on. This guy though, I am still mad at him and that surprises me too. I dont think i can go back to being friends with him..with all the previous exes, eventually we did recover the friendship when both of us moved on but in this case, I really have doubts about whether he has moved on. He hasnt dated anyone since we broke up.

    Sakura

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