Dear Jus

I am sorry you are going through this and I believe you are not being treated with the respect you deserve. I would suggest you read your own post and imagine that it was a close friend that wrote it. What would your advice to her be?

Unfortunately, until you meet someone in person, you don’t really know who they are. And if someone is constantly putting off meeting you and making excuses, it is probably because they are not who you think they are…

This person has caused you stress, disappointment, anger, frustration… and wasted a lot of your time. Time you could’ve spent engaging with more worthy people.

If he really is who he says he is, and you are that important to him, he would find a way to get to you, and meet you. But I suspect he can’t, because he has been lying all along.

If you engage with someone online, and develop feelings, make sure you facetime as soon as possible, and talk on the phone. If they don’t want to do that, there is a serious problem.

I agree with one of the other responders, that he brought up the workplace situation to distract you from his lies. He sounds manipulative and selfish.

Good luck and may you find someone who is worthy of you and the love and friendship you have to offer.