Hi… I m really confused and dont know whom to talk to..I hope you can help me out till some extent. I have been dating a guy for past 7 years. He was already married when i 1st met him and has a 2 year old kid. We have 10 years of age difference. His marrige was not working out and he was already planning to get divorced and also he and his wife were not staying together but his wife used to come once in a while to his place along wit the kid. His name is Raj. So the thing is, intially everythng was fine between us but as time passed by, I started feeling insecure becoz he started lying to me about his whereabouts , reason was he was nt yet divorced and i used to get very upset when evr his wife used to come n visit him. We used fight over it and I used to say things to him to hurt him so that he will feel the pain   which I was going through.
I knew that he loved me and there was nothing left between him and his wife yet i jus coulnt stand it. Years went by and we broke up many times in tat period. After a while he left for dubai and we hardly spoke, nt like we completely stopped talkng but ya it ised to b a causal friends talk. The thing is Raj knows me better than any1 else. With him i dnt have to think before i speak. I can say any damn thing and i know that he wont judge me.

Then I met one guy last year in December. He is a very nice person. It started with friendship and one fine day he prososed me n I said Yes. I was feeling sad and i think i rushed. Now our families are also involved.

Now for past couple of months i am finding it very difficult to cope up wit this whole thing. Raj is still there in me and i know that i wont b able to love anyone ever the way i love Raj but I dont want to hurt this other guy as well. I dont know what to do or how to say No or whom to say no to. On the other hand Raj wants a second chance. I dnt know what to do. Please suggest.