I have dealt and deal with these ideals-and what I have grown to understand-is that these do not have to be two conflicting ideals. For me, when I am loving and accepting my body, my choices about food and exercise seem to follow in a positive direction and along with my positive thinking. Your body-separate from you mind-knows what is needs, and once I learned this and learned to listen to it and APPRECIATE above making those ‘healthy’ choices I,personally, found that I could better respect my body and give it what it needed-in my case I do enjoy exercising. One of the biggest things I figured out my body needed and wasn’t giving it was sleep, and by giving it that I felt so much better, and everything else has wise has to seemed to follow once I did give my body those few extra hours a night. So my answer your question in listening to your body, and understanding what it needs, and I am still learning to do this, is that true acceptance for one’s body is.