Dear Eliana,

thanks so much for the long response! It really warms my heart 🙂 <3

I usually would take “don’t want a relationship at the moment” as a big red flag, but what he told me is that he didn’t want bc he needed to study for his interviews and focus till next Jan. And since that talk, he always told me that he was studying with his buddy/ after work etc… it felt like he was proving to me that he didn’t use study just as an excuse. And we once had this long conversation about longer distance relationship bc he might work at somewhere 2 hours drive away from I live and asked how did I think about that. That’s  why I thought he was real or at least thinking about a serious relationship once the interviews are done.

The reason I throw the “me not want him seeing other ppl” question is that I think us getting intimate is a step forward for our relationship, and if the reason for us not being together at the moment is truly bc his studying for interviews and he actually felt the same way as I did, it should be okay for him not talking to other ppl. he said “ i will try my best!!” And I trusted him to actually want to make an effort bc he never overpromose things, but obviously this time is not.  You know I would rather he told me it’s not working out cuz he still wanted to date more people or he is not interested in me anymore or now is just a bad time bc he didn’t want get distracted… but not seeing a future with me/can’t see us in a relationship are pretty strong reason. To me it has to be something fundamentally not working out for me to say it to a person.

Btw, I like you said about the cute single guys in the dog parks haha!

Happy New Year!!