Hi M,

I am so sorry you are feeling this pain and even more sorry that you feel like you are going through it alone. But I am here to tell you that you are NOT going through it alone. There are people like me who are dealing with the same thing. I recently got out of an engagement. I tell everyone it was a mutual decision but in reality, he left me. It has destoryed me and slowly I am being forced to pick up the pieces of my heart and move on. It’s terrifying and isolating, but liberating at the same time. You were not happy in your relationship and neither was I. And yes, our hearts are broken and we feel lost and scared, but we have an amazing opportunity. We can sieze this opportunity and find ourselves. I too have a mountain of regret. We treated each other horribly. I did crazy and irrational things. I lay awake at night replaying every fight and everytime I was irrationally angry, and it kills me. I think to myself “if only I did this, or reacted this way, or realized this earlier.” But we can’t do that to ourselves M. We need to be gentle and patient and give ourselves time to heal. Give yourself an opportunity to feel that pain and hurt. Acknowledge it for what it is, and when you are ready, move through it. It’s easier said than done, I know this first hand. But you CAN do it. I am! I have found an incredible strength in letting myself be weak. You are not alone. Reach out and ask for help. You can do this. WE can do thia!