Jasmine,
All due respect, but we have much to teach each other, and learn from one another. I think semantics got in our way of communication, here. I try very hard to share my experiences with others in the hope that they will learn form them and know that they are not alone in their journey; it’s what I write about…often. As an author here, at Tiny Buddha, and on my own blog. It is what drives me, it is my passion. I make no money in it, I seek no fame. Perhaps I will share on a larger scale, someday, but, for now, giving of myself is all that is needed. It soothes my soul to know that I have helped even one person to not feel so alone in their perceived struggles with their life.
Here’s a link to one of my posts here at TB: The comments are all I ever needed to feel like I have helped someone, and even I learned from the teachers that offered me lessons there. The other articles can be searched from there. They are raw stories of the trauma that has been felt by my family and myself over these last two years.

“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.”
― Pema Chödrön

Jasmine,

Exactly. Well done. Sorry to be so late with a reply, but I agree wholeheartedly. Beautiful sentiments…

With honor,
N

Thank you, Jasmine.
And you are so right…it was quite the amazing discovery to realize that I am the creator of my own life, and I try to teach that to others often, as well. I am also realizing little by little, every day, that I must just continue doing what I am doing to benefit myself and ensure my own happiness (self-love) and I will be able to have more love to share, knowing that this really is the very best we can do for each other.
Thank you so much for your response, I truly appreciate it.

Warm regards,

Nanette

Gardenia,
Thank you for sharing with us here. I am sorry that you had to learn long time life lessons so young. But those experiences you have had, though agonizing as they may have been for you, have made you who you are today–someone who would share their feelings with total strangers to bring them some comfort from your loss. Your lesson to “cherish your own life and those you love while we are still together on earth” is invaluable. Something everyone can take a lesson from. I can clearly see that you will be able to get through any of lifes curveballs, just fine, just as you said. Thank you for your words.

With much gratitude,
Nanette

Jennifer,
I must appologize for replying so late. It is enexcusable, but we go through things and just fall into a sort of ‘funk’ and find it hard to get out. I just don’t think I was ready to talk about much, though I started this forum discussion, and sor that I must appologize.

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mother and husband so close together. I really and truly can not imagine that. Your words are very well spoken and a tremendous comfort to me. It seems very benificial to go through a “Completing my Pain” exercize. I still am confused as to what I am feeling or if I’m “doing it right”. It is helpful to me that you clarified that everyone owns their own grief and experiences it in their own way. That nothing is wrong with how I am doing it.

I have not really wanted to face the hard issues such as memories with my mom or any situations left undone, but I am slowly accepting that I should. It’s less painful to avoid feeling those feelings and pushing them away when they arise.

I have been getting better about it, especially since I write about it and share it so openly. That is my therapy, I guess. It’s easier to write it out than to talk it out.

I appreciate your reply here, it was very comforting to me.

Blessings,
Nanette