MT. Wow, reading your story really resonates with me and a lot of the things you talk about such as feeling ashamed and lashing out and begging, is exactly what I went through. My ex also has unresolved issues with his ex gf too. Which made me feel better that it wasn’t just me! You are not alone in this. When depression comes into play I think it makes it that more complicated and confusing. Sometimes the best thing to “do” is to do nothing. That was something that is very hard for me. I had to push him to get him to talk. Find a reason. Help him with his depression. Do something! But in the end, I learned that everything I was so called “doing”just made it worse. I decided to go the no contact route. I did not want to get him back but I needed it for me so I could get back to the person I was before the breakup. I am almost at 60 days no contact and each day I am stronger and realize that the people I have in my life are the ones I should be focusing on. Hang in there =)

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